Stay online. Even while the world is taking a pause from dating.
You want to be ready when the world gets back to normal, and it will. Work on your profiles. Look into getting on another site or app. Make sure your photos are hot. Interact with men online. If they like you enough, they will wait and ask you out when life is back to normal.
Don't let a man turn you into a penpal, though. If he's the wrong guy, he'll waste your precious time. You'll also kill the chase. The real chemistry starts on the date, so don't fall too hard until you've met a person in real life. Plus, you're too busy to be a pen pal to a man. If you're not too busy to be a man's pen pal, you should be. There's a lot you can still be doing, even though we're all hunkered down. Many of you are still working, either at home or out in the real world where your essential services are needed. If you're out of work, you should be job searching because this shutdown is temporary.
Meanwhile, there's a lot to do socially, to keep you busy and connected, and to help you meet men. There's online speed dating and online networking. There are online classes. There are even Netflix parties! While you can't interact with many people in person, you can do a lot online, thanks to today's technology.
If you need help navigating the single life while waiting, reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Look 👀 on the bright side.
No doubt this has been a tragic experience for many. Some people have gotten very sick, while others may be in fear, feeling anxiety over their health, their loved one’s health, and over their livelihoods.
Even if you have an income, and are healthy, your life has very likely changed fast in just a few weeks. Many people’s social lives have grinded to a halt. They’re stuck inside, not knowing what to do with themselves.
I had an idea to help. Something I’ll be doing personally for the next 7 days and wanted to share. I've shared this with my clients, who are all hunkering down either alone or with loved ones.
In my downtime, I’m taking a class at Yale University on happiness and one section is on the Science of Savoring. Each day for 7 days I’m going to savor an experience I enjoy. What do I mean by savor? Savoring something lengthens and intensifies the positive emotions related to an experience. Savoring can keep you in the moment and prevent your mind from wandering. It makes you remember the good things in life.
You can savor by taking a photo, taking notes, posting on social media (like I’m doing), taking a memento/souvenir from the experience, sharing it with a friend, meditating on the experience. On my walk, I took a photo, and I am also sharing with you all my experience of WALKING IN NATURE. I don’t know what I would do without my nature walk. Pre-pandemic, I loved it and now I love 💕 it even more because I appreciate it even more in this period of social distancing. I do run into people on my walk these days but most are respectful and aware enough to stay six feet away.
I also see red cardinals and blue jays and Mallard 🦆 ducks and ponds and streams and dogs 🐶 🐕 of all shape size and color. I see feral 🐈 cats and crocuses popping out of the ground. I know I’ll soon start seeing flowers 🌺 galore and butterflies 🦋 and more.
Just writing ✍️ this helps me appreciate this walk even more than normal.
What are you savoring today?
You don’t have to be born with Cindy Crawford’s long legs or Miranda Kerr’s gorgeous face to find dreamy lasting love. Work with what you have. Anyone can be attractive if they set their mind to it.
Be the best that you can be with what you have and you'll attract the right man who wants you, who is attracted to your type. That is a guy who will fight for you in all aspects of your life, and that is what you want.
Don’t think you’re above spending time on your outer appearance. When you’re single and dating, looks mater.
Since many of you are dating online, great photos are a must. I recommend a headshot and one or two body shots. Hire a professional photographer. It will make a big difference. One of my favorites is Teresa Hnat, based in Connecticut, who not only takes stunning photos but will put you at ease so your photography session is fun. (She’ll also give you fantastic “how to pose” tips).
You can find Teresa Hnat’s website here.
Also, if you’re looking for more help with your dating look, consider my “Frumpy to Fabulous” course below:
The course consists of:
💃🏼 *** Simple fixes to improve your dating look. As a former matchmaker who worked with successful men, I know what looks they pass over and what they are attracted to.
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💃🏼 ***Access to me to hone your dating look and make sure your dating photos are in great shape.
💃🏼***How to dress on blind dates versus Date 10 and beyond, for special occasions and more.
💃🏼 ***How to be fashionable but not too fashionable.
💃🏼 ***How to dress sexy yet not cross the line to slutty or sleazy.
Cost (two-tier pricing):
$549 for 6 lesson plans and personalized electronic help from me throughout 10 days. Includes 3 personalized clothing links mailed to you daily, based on your budget and body type.
Also, up to 1 hour of electronic feedback from me throughout the course.
$249 for 6 lesson plans for 7 days. Daily responses to your questions. (Up to 30 minutes total through the 7-day course). Includes general links to clothes and styles.
Email email@example.com for information about “Frumpy to Fabulous.”
I give smart successful women tools to weed out time-wasters and teach them how to find their Mr. Rights.