​"The Rules" dating book may seem  - on the surface - like a book about a great dating strategy, and it really is. But it goes way deeper than that. It's very spiritual and the principles in the book encourage women to be better versions of themselves, to have boundaries and not to bash men, among many other things. Read the book a few times to see what I mean. 
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Even supermodels, and great catches have trouble with this concept and they get hurt, thinking "Why wouldn't a guy like me, 'I'm such a great gorgeous catch?'" Yes you probably are a great catch but you aren't everyone's cup of tea, no matter how hot or wonderful you are. Guys have types. Accept it and find the guy who wants your type. When a guy really like you, he will figure it out. That's the kind of guy you want to hold out for.
I used to make excuses myself, before the "lghtbub" turned on for me, and I realized that the guys who weren't pursing - the guys who didn't make it easy - were just not that interested. As a dating coach, I have heard so many excuses from women. They like a guy but he isn't asking them out, so they decide to ask him out because they think he needs a push. They think a variety of things: "He's too intimated by me" or "He's too shy," or "He's too damaged from his last relationship." I have heard it all. And 99.9 percent of the time, the real reason the guy wasn't making a first move was because he was not interested. He may have had a girlfriend, or wife, or was really into someone else. He may have liked the women, but not enough. They may not have been his type. Guys have types and the sooner women realize that, the better and easier their dating life will be. Everything will run smoother. Watch my lightbulb moment below, or go to my YouTube channel and watch it here: https://youtu.be/KXDY5xnGa9M
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This video - above - explains why you need to do your part in a relationship. You can't always blame someone else for why it's not working out. You keep your side of the road clean. And you don't bash men. You can also watch the video here on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xAF1Kcj7ExQ

You want to be "The One," not just any one to a guy. You want to be that special someone who he likes above everyone else. 
You don't want to settle for crumbs. If a guy is nice to you, flirty, and fun, it still doesn't mean he thinks you are the special someone for him. If he's not doing certain things, including asking you out every Saturday night, there is usually something off. Sometimes you have to train a guy to ask you out every Saturday night - not all guys get this. But, if, after doing so, he still skips Saturday nights, and only wants to see you on, for example, Monday afternoon for lunch, then something is off. Hold out for the guy who jumps through hoops for you. Sometimes it takes patience, but in my experience, it will happen. 
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Women are often fretting to me about whether a guy really likes them. It’s understandable. 
When you like a cute guy and have chemistry, you want to know what he is thinking!!
Basically, all you need to know is this: The signs are crystal clear. A good rule of thumb is if  you have to analyze this issue for hours - the guy might not be the one for you.
And old friend’s mother once said: “When a guy likes you, you know it, you don’t have to wonder.” It’s really true. For those of you who are prone to PTB’ing - pretzel brain twisting - here are some ways to know where you stand with a guy.



He thinks of you romantically and buys you romantic things. Flowers, poems, jewelry. It's not about the money, but the amount of thought and romance he puts into things. He might even make you something by hand. Practical gifts come from the head and are for sisters, mothers, grandmothers and other relatives. Romantic gifts come from the heart.

He asks you out in advance. You are not a last-minute thought. You are on his mind a lot. Sure, he may try to see you spontaneously. But he also plans things out in advance and asks you out ahead of time.


He introduces you to friends and family. He wants them to meet you. Because he is so happy and in love, he wants both sides to meet one another (unless he's not close to his family, in which case he may not want you to meet them right away, if at all.) Another exception is if you both live in one area - say NYC - and the parents live in California, etc. When guys have one foot out the door, they don’t care if you meet their family, and they don’t care to meet yours, or impress yours, either.

He pays for dates. It’s not about the money, but when a man is in love, he wants to take care of you, and impress you. He wants to court you properly. He wants to feed you. 

He loves you unconditionally and overlooks your flaws. He doesn't keep harping on you to change. He doesn’t tell you how your arms should look more like those of his sexy personal trainer. He’s happy with you the way you are.

A real man will take the lead. He will ask you out on dates, and ask for your hand in marriage. He navigates the ship, and moves it along. He may be a little cautious, but he will always figure out how to move the relationship to the next step, without prodding from you. (Occasionally a man may take too long to propose, in which case a woman can ask his intentions, and may sometimes have to give an ultimatum. Beyond that, a real man will move things forward on his own).

He knows early on if you are the one, and has a grand plan, even if he doesn’t tell you. From the first time he takes you out on a date, he's thinking of how to impress you and make you happy. He will usually have a plan for where to eat, and where to take you after the date to prolong it. He's thinking of where he might take you to propose some day. He's always thinking about you and how to move things forward.





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