It Can Happen to You Too!
Thrilled about a recent success story of a really pretty, smart and easygoing twentysomething client!
Here's her story, shared with permission from her! It can happen to you too!
Jenn S. got engaged a little over a year after meeting her Mr. Right on a dating app.
He’s so in love with her and asked her to marry him on the edge of a pond surrounded by gorgeous plants and flowers.
The night he proposed he told her he wanted to get married soon and be involved in the whole wedding planning process.
We started working together in Dec. 2015 and she went on many first, second and third dates. By summer, she had met her Mr. Right.
Their courtship was romantic and loving and included Saturday night dinner dates, flowers, jewelry, handmade gifts and gifts for her pet.
“Of course, he messaged first and asked me out within 4 messages. He picked the day, time, and place--in my neighborhood of course. We only had a drink on the first date.”
“Dinner was included on every date after DZ,” she said.
She declined exclusivity when he first asked, but then accepted when he asked the second time after 3 months of dating. The first "I love you" was after 3.5 months of dating, and after four months of dating he said he saw them married in the future.
“He constantly compliments my looks and how much he loves my easygoing personality. I can't even begin to summarize all kind, generous, and loving gestures he has made over the last 14 months. Whenever I'm with him, I feel calm and at ease...all my concerns about work or life fade away into the background. I can't wait to marry a man that loves and cares for me so much. I truly didn't believe it was possible.”
Early on, she wasn’t convinced about the importance of Saturday night dinner dates, but eventually it all made sense. “Something you said during our first consult made a big difference for me. I asked about how to handle the Saturday night events and parties I typically attended. You told me that if I wanted to be serious about getting married, I needed to prioritize dates on Saturday. I was frustrated with that. But you were so right. When you're doing the Rules that consistency is key to show a guy you aren't flakey when you're ignoring texts and calls all the time!!”
Ladies, it can happen to you too! As a coach who has worked with clients for 15 years - getting them married, engaged, in great relationships and teaching them to weed out time-wasters, I have found that those who find love pretty quickly have the right mindset. The inner vibe is HUGE. That is why I am offering a free 5-day training session called "Getting Clarity on Mr. Right and Mr. Forever," which is starting Oct. 2, 2017.
If you want to get on the list, please email firstname.lastname@example.org and you will receive next steps.
It will be a fabulous training and is the missing link for so many! xoxo
What Single Daters Can Learn from Entrepreneurs
I was at a very high level entrepreneurial event earlier this month in Kent, Connecticut. Susie Carder, the president and COO of Motivating the Masses was there. So was the co-owner of the Atlanta Hawks Jesse Itzler, and the original Shark from Shark Tank, Kevin Harrington.
These innovators are at the top of their game, and the one thing they talked about time and time again is mindset.
They were speaking to young entrepreneurs who were there to connect with angel investors and network, and their biggest piece of advice had to do with their inner game.
Strategy plays a role, and the product is important, but hands down mindset is what they continually talked about.
Entrepreneur Jesse Itzler, the husband of Spanx founder Sara Blakeley, talked about his month of extreme fitness training with a Navy SEAL, a month that pushed his mental limits. “It’s called grit, it’s called mental toughness,” Itzler told the crowd. “That is the key.”
Itzler said that “self-imposed limitations” is what kept him at 22 pushups a day. After pushing himself mentally, he was able to do 1,000 a day.
Harrington put up a quote on a HUGE screen to emphasize this point.
“Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon, must come to pass.”
As I was sitting there watching Harrington’s talk, I realized that the quote, from Paul J. Meyer, a pioneer in the self-help movement, applies 100 percent to daters looking for their Mr. Right and Mr. Forever, or anyone else who is looking to achieve a goal that so far has eluded them.
The single daters I work with who do those four things are the ones with the best “luck” at finding their Mr. Rights.
They really want it - they aren’t wishy washy and ambivalent. They have clarity. And they take massive action.
Unfortunately massive action isn’t enough - the inner work needs to be done as well, and if it’s not you can end up on that hamster wheel forever.
That’s why I am excited to be offering a course starting Oct. 16, called MAN-ifesting Your Mr. Right and Mr. Forever, where you will learn the tools to help clear away any inner blocks that are keeping you from finding him.
I have been in the trenches dating myself and know what single ladies are going through. I have manifested amazing relationships myself and some that were so so and I can tell you EXACTLY what separates the good from the bad, and HOW to get the good instead of the bad.
I have given many ladies the tools to find their Mr. Rights. You can be my next SUCCESS story! My clients are thrilled with the results they get, and so am I but I am never surprised, because this stuff works!
You may have tried working on your inner self before, and maybe the results were so so.
But with this course, you will have me to keep you on the path for six weeks.
I will be there supporting you in the group, answering all your questions as they come in and through weekly live Q and As. You will get weekly lesson plans.
We will delve deeply into specific principles and tools to get you in a place where you are a vibrational match for the man you desire.
An amazing thing happens, too, when you up your vibe in one area, it helps in all areas of your life.
You will notice everything operating on a different frequency - not only when it comes to your love life and the people you attract.
You will attract better opportunities all around - financially emotionally health wise, and more.
You really need to want your goal for it to come true. And if you want it, you can have it.
Email me and I can tell you more about the course. The next five people to sign up for the offer will get the course at a $200 discount and then the price will be going up.
Ladies: 8 Tips to Keep Your Online Dating Profile From Sucking
Karenna Alexander giving an online dating seminar live in Woodbury, Connecticut. Photo Courtesy of Republican American Newspaper.
It’s all about the photos ladies.
I work with men on the matchmaking side of my business, and I have to say I understand men almost as good as, if not better than, they understand themselves. I say that not to be conceited but I have studied them on purpose for years - to help myself become a better dater and girlfriend and to be a better coach.
The better I understood men, the better my relationships were and the better coach I have been able to be.
For years, I have observed what works with men (I have a book coming out on this topic) and want to share online dating tips with you so your profile doesn’t get passed over.
It starts with the photos. They are essential! If a guy isn't attracted to your photo, forget everything else. But there are other ways you can mess up, even if you have a great photo, and I will go over them below.
We will go through them one by one, and and I will explain what you need to do to get attention on the dating sites and apps. Here we go:
Guys are very visual so you need to spend time on your photos. You should have a headshot and a body shot and maybe one other photo. If you don’t have a full body shot, you will very likely be passed over. Guys tell me all the time they think a woman who doesn’t show her full body is hiding something. So if you're only posting a headshot you may be missing out on a lot of good guys. Guys are visual so don't blame them for this, it’s just the way they are wired biologically.
Before you get a photo taken for online dating purposes, get a make-over. When you set up a photo shoot, book with a professional or have a friend who is good with the camera - the iPhone 7 has a great portrait feature and the camera is not too bad at all - take a few photos.
Smile for the camera. Giggling is cute, too. You want to convey that you are friendly and easygoing. Nothing in the world gets you down. I’ve heard from many men that when a woman is angry looking - even if she is attractive - they steer clear.
An online dating profile should be about you. The men scrolling through the profiles don’t really want to see photos of you with your girlfriends, or with your family, or your pet. Or photos of a sunset. Initially, they just want to see if they are attracted enough to you to ask you out on a date.
While you want to dress sexy (a formfitting dress is great), you need to be careful that you don’t cross the line. No bathing suit shots or risqué club photos. Those types of photos will attract the wrong guys and you will be back to square one.
Anything grainy or dated looks old and lackluster, not hot and inviting. Make sure the photos aren’t more than a year old. Some women put up photos that look like they were taken 20 years ago on an old school camera, and then photographed via an iPhone and uploaded to the dating site/app.
Select good quality photos with a high enough resolution - if they are too grainy, they look old and unappealing.
Also, if a photo is too old - say 10 or 20 years old - and you show up looking 10 or 20 years older on the date, your date will feel duped. This is a big complaint from men.
Don’t try too hard in your profile. No need to post more than three or four photos - you don't want to make it look like you're trying too hard. Guys tell me all the time that when women try too hard - in general - it is a major turn off.
You can also try too hard by wanting to overly impress a guy in your profile - talking about all the awards you have won at work, how fast you can run a mile, how many languages you speak, etc., etc., etc. A guy isn’t going to ask you on a date because of your amazing accomplishments.
Be careful what you say in your online profile! Less is more.
Too many women are turning guys off right away because they reveal way too much information about their personal life - their lives sound like a soap opera, and it makes men want to run the other way. Guys are looking for their dream girl, and a woman who airs all her dirty laundry loses that status quickly. Negativity is one of the traits men mention to me over and over again.
Don’t put an aggressive wish list in your bio section. Guys see a long list, and they immediately think: “Wow she sounds demanding.” I have heard this from men time and time again.
In fact, there’s no need to post a wish list at all, really. A guy isn’t going to email you back because he likes your wish list, and it backfires because it makes you look super high maintenance. If you feel like you need to post something akin to a wish list, simply say something chill, like: “I’m looking for a smart, funny chivalrous guy.”
Ladies, if you are anxious to find Mr. Right within the next year, please book a free 30 minute Soul Connection Session with me, and I will tell you what steps you need to take to get there. My goal is to get you all in happy relationships with your Mr. Right and Mr. Forever! It can happen for you, it really can! xoxo
Just send me an email and we can schedule a session!