Some daters are rusty, worriedly asking me how to quell their nerves when they get back out there and date.
Here are some suggestions to make the dating process easier:
Fake it until you make it. Confidence is sexy. If you are feeling unconfident, don't let it show. Pretend you are an actress who just flew in from Hollywood for the date. If you don't let your date see you sweat, your date probably won't notice.
Realize the person you are dating is probably just as rusty as you are. Feel compassion for them. You'll find that while you're feeling compassion for someone else, you will think less about your own problems. Also, remember that you're not the only one in the world going on a date right now. People are going through this all over the world.
Try to be busy before the date. A socially distanced hike. A Zoom meeting. A bath while reading a good mystery. Distracting yourself in some manner may help you forget why you are nervous in the first place.
Get it out through journaling. Pour your heart out, pen to paper. This will act like a release, and it will help calm you down. Remember, feelings are not facts. There's no reason to be nervous. You've done this before. And if it's the right person for you, the date will just flow.
Lastly, if you want more tips to improve your dating life, check out: A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know available if you click here.
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