When I was in my teens and twenties, men seemed so complicated. I had no idea how to act, and it seemed as if I was always getting hurt, or misreading signals.
I made excuses for men who weren’t stepping up to the plate.
After a great deal of heartache, I finally “got” men after being taught by a few great mentors. It was such a life-changing AND life-enhancing experience, I trained to become a dating and relationship coach, and my whole career path changed.
Men became crystal clear. They were no longer difficult to understand, nor was I confused any longer.
Once you understand men, life is not only so much easier, but your relationships with men become better and you’re more likely to find your Mr. Forever.
When it’s not meant to be, you can read the signs very easily and gracefully let go of a situation. You no longer spend time with men who aren’t in it for the long haul.
You date men who are truly interested in you.
You aren’t distracted at work, like I would often be, wondering why a guy hadn’t called, or feeling insecure about where I stood.
I notice that clients and other women I talk to often get confused by signs.
Sometimes they even think negatively about something that actually isn’t that bad. Like, if a guy is always 15 minutes late for a date, they think he’s disrespecting them. Or, they think if a guy doesn’t text them non-stop during the week that he’s fooling around on them. In my experience, both of those scenarios - lateness and a lack of texting - aren’t in and of themselves reasons to find find big fault with a guy.
Once you get good at this, you know who to keep in your life and who to say “NEXT” to.
You weed out time-wasters and only allow in your life quality men who are interested in treating you like a princess.
Here are key things to look for:
He mentions the future. Maybe not in an obvious way like: “When we are married…” But he talks about his hopes, dreams and plans.
He’s on his best behavior. He tries to impress you. If you are gluten free, he’s sure to find a gluten-free restaurant. He pays for dinner. Holds the door for you. Drives to your area for the date.
He remembers things you have told him, such as how “The Walking Dead” is your favorite show, and he makes future plans with the show in mind, i.e. looking for “The Walking Dead” zombie parties, buying you paraphernalia from the show, that sort of thing.
He tries to integrate you into his life, and wants you to meet his friends, family and pets.
He buys romantic gifts, flowers, jewelry, cute objects that remind him of you, gifts for your pet, and more. He’s also been known to send you handwritten cards and letters.
Thumbs up if you are dating a guy and all five are present.
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