Happy New Year everyone!
Let’s start 2018 off brimming with positivity and good vibes! In all aspects of your life, including in your online dating profile.
When your online dating profile is negative, the men and the experiences you attract will be negative, too.
Here are some tips to keep in mind while writing (or editing, i.e. improving on) your profile.
DON’T write about what you don't want.
Too many women don’t get this!
Just like it’s a negative way of approaching life, it’s a negative way of approaching dating.
For anyone who has done manifesting work, this will come as no surprise. Whenever you are putting something out there into the world, you put it out there in a positive way. In fact, the times I do manifesting work that mentions anything negative, I erase the comments (or toss the paper) so they aren't lingering around. I keep only the positive declarations in my written and online journals.
Plus, when you say in your profile something like: “I don’t want manipulative men,” it’s essentially a turn-off to an emotionally healthy guy. A high quality guy knows - subconsciously or consciously - to stay clear. That kind of phrase leads him to believe that a woman’s prior relationships were likely messy and unhealthy.
Another reason not to write what you don't want in an online dating profile is because it does no good anyhow. It won't necessarily prevent the guys you don't want from contacting you. Asking for someone who is not a player won't ensure that a player won't ask you out.
The best way to keep those guys from coming into your life is to have the right mindset and the right dating strategy.
You can write about your hobbies and interests and of course deal-breakers, like religion, locale, kids situation, and age. Those are important. Beyond that, you can talk on the date and let them learn more about you then.
Also, you must watch a guy’s actions throughout the dating process. You don’t jump into anything too fast. You don’t accept exclusivity too soon. You don’t have sex too soon. You take it slow because that’s the best way to see what a guy is made of.
The thing to put the most effort in when putting together an online dating profile is your profile photos, because as we all know, photos are the main thing guys look at.
Beyond that, keep your profile short sweet and upbeat!
Ladies, if you are struggling to meet high quality guys, fill out this form to apply to work with me to get your profile up to snuff.
Wishing you all the best in 2018--may it be a year filled with positivity, success, joy, adventure and love!
I give smart successful women tools to weed out time-wasters and teach them how to find their Mr. Rights.