Get online! Get back on the horse.
That's the single best tip I can give you after a break-up. Hands down.
It’s what I told co-hosts Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs who interviewed me as part of a massive divorce podcast series they put together.
One of the questions they asked me was whether a newly single person should wait before starting to date again.
The conventional wisdom is that after a break-up, you should take a lot of time to analyze what went wrong, and work on your issues before you date again. In my opinion, that’s wrong, for several reasons.
As a dating coach, I see too many people, ladies especially, waiting way too long to get back out there, and then several years go by and they wonder where the time went. Too often women spend way too much time analyzing a prior break-up, so much so that they spend years being angry at their ex, while he has already moved forward.
While I believe you should look inward and examine your role in the break-up or any issues you think you could improve upon, I also believe that getting back out there will make you feel better. You might find a good guy who will distract you and get you out of the negative funk you are in.
You can work on your issues and become a better person while you are navigating the dating waters. If you get back on the horse, and pace any new relationships - which is what I recommend to my dating coaching clients - you won’t be jumping back into the fire right away anyhow. You will be taking it slow, which is healthy.
You can’t go wrong if you take it slow.
On the video, I also discuss with Barb and Jo clothing tips and suggestions for those awkward first dates, and more.
Even if you aren’t divorced, but are simply single, these tips will no doubt be helpful.
To watch the video, click here.
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