Ghosting is one of those dating terms that's been bandied about in the press as an abhorrent dating trend.
People talk about it like it's a bad thing.
Sure, when a man ghosts he's certainly Mr. Wrong. But this is a good thing because it shows you his true colors sooner rather than later. It's saves you time.
When a man disappears without a breakup speech, that's communication. When he says: "I'll call you," after a great first date and then disappears, that's also communication.
Silence is your answer loud and clear.
He could very well be a bad news guy who is not relationship material, and will likely make up some excuse that doesn't mean anything anyway.
Heed the silence and move on.
There's no need to ever follow up with a man, asking him questions as to why he disappeared. That's way beneath your dignity. When it's Mr. Right, you know it.
Sure, it would be nice if all men could be respectful to someone they've slept with and spent time with, and give a respectful closure conversation. But not all men are great guys. Be thankful when this type of guy leaves your life.
This is why I suggest women have lots of balls in the air while dating, even when dating someone they like. Go slow on accepting exclusivity. Keep your online dating profile up for as long as you can, until you're sure you're with a good guy.
A lot can happen. Often times men are charming early on, and their true colors aren't apparent until a few months in.
I give smart successful women tools to weed out time-wasters and teach them how to find their Mr. Rights.