Do you want to find Mr. Right?
My new book A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know will get you there.
Many smart, successful, and beautiful women don’t understand men, which is why they aren't getting the results they want. If you want the fairy tale you’ve always dreamed about, you must learn to understand men and respect the differences between men and women.
"If you want to know what men really want and to mesmerize Mr. Right, buy this book now! A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men will take you into the inner workings of the male mind so you get fabulous results!" - Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of the New York Times bestseller The Rules
This book teaches you why men respond to modern courtship principles that give a man a challenge and create a spark that lays a foundation for a beautiful relationship. Men remember those first few months forever. Courtship is better for you and for the man you're dating. A man wants to feel something for the woman he's dating. He doesn't want to conquer you so easily.
These secrets teach you to:
I want you all to be as giddy as my clients are about their love lives!
Get it here https://amzn.to/3qaksOQ for 99 cents while you can!
For those who want to be part of a private Facebook group, where I discuss the chapters of the book and answer your dating questions, pm me or email me at email@example.com
If you write an honest review of the book, pm or email me to receive your special goodies, which include access to the Facebook group and a free MAN-ifesting Mr. Forever workbook (that sells for $29).
Ever uttered that phrase? Frustrated that Mr. Right hasn't shown up yet?
You may not know all the secrets. I'm spilling them in my new book.
Some of you may be in the dating trenches, meeting Mr. Wrong after Mr. Wrong. You may be like Charlotte, one of the main characters in Sex and the City, who famously said, “I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m exhausted. Where is he?” You may have given up. Or, maybe you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t treating you well.
I'm releasing my dating book this Valentine's week, and in it I answer the questions you need to know on the path to find Mr. Right.
I'm assembling a book launch team so feel free to email me to be part of the launch team. ( It doesn't include much heavy lifting at all and you do get goodies :))
Email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Since a man often won’t tell you it's over when it's over, you need to make sure you’re watching the signs. Good instincts can help if you learn to tune in, but here are some concrete signs to watch for so you can tell when a man is pulling away:
There are many more ways to tell whether you are with Mr. Right or not, and I include them in my new book that will be released this month. Stay tuned for how to purchase the book.
Men know soon after they meet you whether they can live without you.
Whether it's a VIP like George Clooney or the boy-next-door, a man is enamored of you, or not, right away. This is why you should never let a relationship drag on beyond a year. If a guy isn't sure you're THE ONE after one year, he'll never be sure.
Movie star George Clooney was quoted as saying, “I knew fairly quickly that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Amal.”’’ According to a May 19, 2015, Vanity Fair article by Joanna Robinson, he said that to Charlie Rose on CBS This Morning.
This is the bar for the type of relationship you want. A confirmed bachelor in his 50s, who ended up marrying Amal and having children with her, George’s quote proves that when a guy wants something, he goes after it. By all press accounts, Amal acted cool and confident throughout their courtship. She didn’t appear to be rushing George in any way. She didn’t accept his proposal immediately, according to the Vanity Fair article. Clooney was quoted as saying he told her he was 52 years old and “I’ve been on my knee now for about 28 minutes, so I gotta get an answer out of this or I’m gonna throw a hip out!”
Just like George Clooney, many men I spoke with said they knew quickly—within a few dates—that they wanted to marry their wives. They knew she was special, and while they weren’t ready to propose after a few dates or a few months, they had a good feeling she was THE ONE.
If you play your cards right, you can end up with a man like George, proposing in less than one year. But for this to happen you need to have the right dating strategy. Amal had the right strategy. What is your dating strategy? How is it working out?
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Stay online. Even while the world is taking a pause from dating.
You want to be ready when the world gets back to normal, and it will. Work on your profiles. Look into getting on another site or app. Make sure your photos are hot. Interact with men online. If they like you enough, they will wait and ask you out when life is back to normal.
Don't let a man turn you into a penpal, though. If he's the wrong guy, he'll waste your precious time. You'll also kill the chase. The real chemistry starts on the date, so don't fall too hard until you've met a person in real life. Plus, you're too busy to be a pen pal to a man. If you're not too busy to be a man's pen pal, you should be. There's a lot you can still be doing, even though we're all hunkered down. Many of you are still working, either at home or out in the real world where your essential services are needed. If you're out of work, you should be job searching because this shutdown is temporary.
Meanwhile, there's a lot to do socially, to keep you busy and connected, and to help you meet men. There's online speed dating and online networking. There are online classes. There are even Netflix parties! While you can't interact with many people in person, you can do a lot online, thanks to today's technology.
If you need help navigating the single life while waiting, reach out to me at email@example.com
Look 👀 on the bright side.
No doubt this has been a tragic experience for many. Some people have gotten very sick, while others may be in fear, feeling anxiety over their health, their loved one’s health, and over their livelihoods.
Even if you have an income, and are healthy, your life has very likely changed fast in just a few weeks. Many people’s social lives have grinded to a halt. They’re stuck inside, not knowing what to do with themselves.
I had an idea to help. Something I’ll be doing personally for the next 7 days and wanted to share. I've shared this with my clients, who are all hunkering down either alone or with loved ones.
In my downtime, I’m taking a class at Yale University on happiness and one section is on the Science of Savoring. Each day for 7 days I’m going to savor an experience I enjoy. What do I mean by savor? Savoring something lengthens and intensifies the positive emotions related to an experience. Savoring can keep you in the moment and prevent your mind from wandering. It makes you remember the good things in life.
You can savor by taking a photo, taking notes, posting on social media (like I’m doing), taking a memento/souvenir from the experience, sharing it with a friend, meditating on the experience. On my walk, I took a photo, and I am also sharing with you all my experience of WALKING IN NATURE. I don’t know what I would do without my nature walk. Pre-pandemic, I loved it and now I love 💕 it even more because I appreciate it even more in this period of social distancing. I do run into people on my walk these days but most are respectful and aware enough to stay six feet away.
I also see red cardinals and blue jays and Mallard 🦆 ducks and ponds and streams and dogs 🐶 🐕 of all shape size and color. I see feral 🐈 cats and crocuses popping out of the ground. I know I’ll soon start seeing flowers 🌺 galore and butterflies 🦋 and more.
Just writing ✍️ this helps me appreciate this walk even more than normal.
What are you savoring today?
You don’t have to be born with Cindy Crawford’s long legs or Miranda Kerr’s gorgeous face to find dreamy lasting love. Work with what you have. Anyone can be attractive if they set their mind to it.
Be the best that you can be with what you have and you'll attract the right man who wants you, who is attracted to your type. That is a guy who will fight for you in all aspects of your life, and that is what you want.
Don’t think you’re above spending time on your outer appearance. When you’re single and dating, looks mater.
Since many of you are dating online, great photos are a must. I recommend a headshot and one or two body shots. Hire a professional photographer. It will make a big difference. One of my favorites is Teresa Hnat, based in Connecticut, who not only takes stunning photos but will put you at ease so your photography session is fun. (She’ll also give you fantastic “how to pose” tips).
You can find Teresa Hnat’s website here.
Also, if you’re looking for more help with your dating look, consider my “Frumpy to Fabulous” course below:
The course consists of:
💃🏼 *** Simple fixes to improve your dating look. As a former matchmaker who worked with successful men, I know what looks they pass over and what they are attracted to.
💃🏼 *** Drool-worthy clothing links from the top designers.
💃🏼 ***Access to me to hone your dating look and make sure your dating photos are in great shape.
💃🏼***How to dress on blind dates versus Date 10 and beyond, for special occasions and more.
💃🏼 ***How to be fashionable but not too fashionable.
💃🏼 ***How to dress sexy yet not cross the line to slutty or sleazy.
Cost (two-tier pricing):
$549 for 6 lesson plans and personalized electronic help from me throughout 10 days. Includes 3 personalized clothing links mailed to you daily, based on your budget and body type.
Also, up to 1 hour of electronic feedback from me throughout the course.
$249 for 6 lesson plans for 7 days. Daily responses to your questions. (Up to 30 minutes total through the 7-day course). Includes general links to clothes and styles.
Email firstname.lastname@example.org for information about “Frumpy to Fabulous.”
A man must take the lead in a romantic relationship. He must push a relationship forward.
Do you want to know what "the oldest trick in the book" is? Check out this link in Hartford Courant magazine's December issue, where I explain a dating scenario that women need to watch out for.
I've written about this issue in prior blogs, and I'm including the issue in my upcoming book. So stay tuned for even more on this topic.
Are you getting unmatched on Tinder?
I hear a lot of women complaining when this happens. Don't fret.
It could be for a whole host of reasons that have nothing to do with you.
The person could have gotten kicked off the site. Or left voluntarily. (He might have been married and got caught red-handed). It might have been a fake profile that was unmatching you.
You don't know what you're dealing with online, so don't let any of this stuff stress you out.
Focus on what you can control, and that is lining up dates with men who ask you out within four emails. Get on other sites besides Tinder. Sites that clients have had great luck on, besides Tinder, include Match, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Plenty of Fish. (Depending on where you live, certain sites are better than others, so try them all and see how it plays out). Remember, it only takes one guy! He's out there, you just have to try it all.
I give smart successful women tools to weed out time-wasters and teach them how to find their Mr. Rights.