Counting Down to #1

#5 Don't be a Debbie Downer
Try to be happy and upbeat. Guys don't want to be with complainers. Things not to write: "My ex was a jerk, and I'm hoping you're not." OR "Looking to avoid players and commitment phobes." OR "I won't put up with a man's crap." 

#4 Don't Try Too Hard
Guys can tell when you try too hard, and it appears desperate. Better to be the cool and confident girl. So, don't write things like: "Your mother and kids will love me." OR "I'm the best cook in town, even my ex says that." 
Avoid trying too hard in other ways. For example, don't brag about your net worth or fabulous job. 

# 3 Be Mysterious
Your profile should be short and sweet. Don't lie, but when it comes to personal details, leave them out. A guy should get to know you slowly. It's also more intriguing to men if you are more mysterious. Always leave him wanting more.
Don't post a gallery of 10 photos, of you and all your friends, your family, your pets, you at your job, you getting a manicure, you in your convertible. You will kill the mystery. 
Same goes for the text in your profile. Keep it short, just enough so a man knows enough about you to write an opening email/text. Write about your hobbies and interests, and favorite restaurants. You can include dealbreakers, like religion or whether you have or want children. But beyond that, there's no need to write a book.

#2 Keep it Classy: No Risqué Photos or Text
Don't put anything sexual out there, either in your profile photos or your profile text. If you do, you may attract the wrong men, ones looking for hookups.
If you're looking for a hook-up, then by all means, be risqué. But I know many women are looking for a good guy who leads to a long-term boyfriend/husband.

#1. PHOTOS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING
Make sure you have beautiful photos that show the real you. 
Look hot, but in a classy way. Don't post risqué photos, as just discussed.
Wear makeup, and you can even use Photoshop a little bit (like to get rid of a pimple), but don't Photoshop to the point where a man won't recognize you when he meets you.
Dress in your photos like you would dress to a fancy occasion, not how you look on the way to the gym in the morning, before you've had your coffee.
If you can, have professional photos taken, and get a make-over by a professional makeup artist beforehand. If you can't afford a professional photographer, have a friend take a good photo of you or take a good selfie.
Make sure the photos aren't more than a few years old. Many men complain to me that women post very old photos from when they were younger and thinner. 
Also, smile in your photos - men tell me they will pass over a sourpuss.

Letting the man take the lead in a relationship is hard for some modern women who are used to being aggressive in their careers and in every other way.


One thing you need to understand is that letting the man take the lead doesn't mean you're a doormat, nor does it mean you're passive.


You're easy to be with but you stand up for yourself if something is off. You work on your inner game and your outer game.


Work out. Get blowouts, manicures, pedicures, wax your eyebrows and everywhere else that needs it. Get lash extensions. Stay up on the latest fashions, and always look your absolute best.


Take massive actions to meet men  - online dating, singles related events, fix-ups, and other ways. 


Courtship is definitely not passive. It's about learning to receive from a man, seeing what he's capable of giving you. You keep your eyes open during the courtship process and evaluate his qualities to see if he's someone you can have a future with. 


If you believe in courtship, you're smart because you understand how well it works. Don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise.

Radio hosts Chaz & AJ of 99.1 WPLR, the Howard Sterns of Connecticut, gave me a hard time this week about some advice I give in my book: A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know.

In the book, I teach women to weed out time wasters extremely fast, and one of the big ways is to wait 12 consecutive Saturday night dates to sleep with a man. Chaz & AJ went crazy over that bit of advice, telling me there's no way a guy will wait that long. However, a man who really likes you will wait. (And I think Chaz & AJ secretly agree with me).  I have to say, many of the men I interviewed for my book said that if they liked a woman enough, they would wait for when she is ready. 

Take a listen to our lively debate here. 

Now that I've written a dating book for women, friends are suggesting that I write a book for men. But I always say to them, "Men don't read relationship books."

I still believe there's truth in that statement. Though something unexpected happened when I published my dating book "A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know." 

Dads seem to be loving it.

A few former male colleagues, who have teenage daughters, have reached out to me and said they heard my radio interview this past week—where I told women to take it slow with men and wait at least 12 Saturday night dates to sleep with a man.

While the radio hosts were aghast, the former male colleagues appreciated my advice, which protects young women from Mr. Wrongs and helps them find Mr. Right.
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Yes, in this hook-up culture, 12 dates seems like a lot. But that dating guideline, along with many others—including making sure the man drives to your area for dates and that he pays for dates—gets my clients to the finish line faster. Not only that, these guidelines set in motion that essential chase, which makes dating a thrill for the man. It's a win-win situation.

If you have trouble receiving from a man—whether it’s letting him pay for dinner, accepting his love, or in other ways—you likely aren't in the relationship you deserve.

If you don’t respect the differences between men and women, and allow a man to court you,  a guy won’t insist on courting you. And when this happens, he’ll start treating you in a casual manner, more like an afterthought.

This isn't about being mean or nasty, or demanding a man treat you a certain way. You have high standards, but you behave in a feminine way, so a man wants to give to you. He wants to protect you. He wants to care for you. He wants to treat you like gold.

If your confidence has taken a hit and you feel like your best days are behind you, fret not. Every pot will find its lid. You’ll find that lid much faster if you become comfortable receiving. 

If you want more tips on how to accept a man's love, my book is filled with them. Sometimes, if you just take the right actions, your emotions will follow suit. 

"A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know" is available if you click here.

I wrote this book because many smart, successful, and beautiful women don’t understand men, which is why they aren't getting the results they want. If you want the fairy tale you’ve always dreamed about, you must learn to understand men and respect the differences between men and women.

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"If you want to know what men really want and to mesmerize Mr. Right, buy this book now! A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men will take you into the inner workings of the male mind so you get fabulous results!" - Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of the New York Times bestseller The Rules

I want you all to be as giddy as my clients are about their love lives!

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Think short and sweet in your online dating encounters. 

Here's an example:
Bad Tinder Example: 

Still single at 32, just like that hot mess Bridget Jones, hoping to take a stab at online dating in case my Mr. Darcy shows up. 

Improved Tinder Example in pink below:

Chicago-based Renée Zellweger look-alike who plays pickleball, works out, and travels. I’m a lover of spy novels, and The Matrix is my all-time favorite movie. 
While the Bad Tinder Example is witty, it puts her down. The Improved Tinder Example is physically descriptive and lists basic fun and light information that isn’t too deep.

This is one of the examples you'll find in my dating book, A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know.
You'll also learn why less is more in other online scenarios and a whole host of ways to weed out time wasters and find Mr. Right. 

Get the book here: 
https://amzn.to/3qoK22F

To be a part of this book's discussion group on Facebook, send a reply email. We'll analyze each chapter, and I'll answer your burning questions.

xoxo, 

Karenna 


Initial Reviews: 
"If you want to know what men really want and to mesmerize Mr. Right, buy this book now! A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men will take you into the inner workings of the male mind so you get fabulous results!" -    Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of the New York Times bestseller The Rules

Be careful what you wish for.
Sometimes that unattainable man - who you think would be perfect for you - is not your Mr. Right.
Did anyone have a crush on Governor Cuomo during the height of the pandemic, when he was leading news conferences daily?
I know of many women who did. Regardless of political party, they were calling themselves Cuomosexuals. They loved how in command he was of the situation. They loved his sense of humor and jokes. His take charge personality was a turn on. He seemed like a stand-up sensitive guy who respected women and would never make an unwanted advance. 
But underneath, he seemed to be hitting on twenty somethings in the workplace, which is sexual harassment. Most of us have been twentysomething - and many of you are - and for most women I know, it's very creepy when someone 40 years older hits on you. 
Sometimes women pine away for a man who looks great on the outside, but in reality, he's not all that wonderful at all.
Ladies, often times when you think you're missing out on something, you aren't at all.
This is not a political post whatsoever!
To learn how to weed out time wasters, pick up a copy of the recently released A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men: Dating Secrets Most Women Don't Know.