Stay online. Even while the world is taking a pause from dating.
You want to be ready when the world gets back to normal, and it will. Work on your profiles. Look into getting on another site or app. Make sure your photos are hot. Interact with men online. If they like you enough, they will wait and ask you out when life is back to normal.
Don't let a man turn you into a penpal, though. If he's the wrong guy, he'll waste your precious time. You'll also kill the chase. The real chemistry starts on the date, so don't fall too hard until you've met a person in real life. Plus, you're too busy to be a pen pal to a man. If you're not too busy to be a man's pen pal, you should be. There's a lot you can still be doing, even though we're all hunkered down. Many of you are still working, either at home or out in the real world where your essential services are needed. If you're out of work, you should be job searching because this shutdown is temporary.
Meanwhile, there's a lot to do socially, to keep you busy and connected, and to help you meet men. There's online speed dating and online networking. There are online classes. There are even Netflix parties! While you can't interact with many people in person, you can do a lot online, thanks to today's technology.
If you need help navigating the single life while waiting, reach out to me at email@example.com
Look 👀 on the bright side.
No doubt this has been a tragic experience for many. Some people have gotten very sick, while others may be in fear, feeling anxiety over their health, their loved one’s health, and over their livelihoods.
Even if you have an income, and are healthy, your life has very likely changed fast in just a few weeks. Many people’s social lives have grinded to a halt. They’re stuck inside, not knowing what to do with themselves.
I had an idea to help. Something I’ll be doing personally for the next 7 days and wanted to share. I've shared this with my clients, who are all hunkering down either alone or with loved ones.
In my downtime, I’m taking a class at Yale University on happiness and one section is on the Science of Savoring. Each day for 7 days I’m going to savor an experience I enjoy. What do I mean by savor? Savoring something lengthens and intensifies the positive emotions related to an experience. Savoring can keep you in the moment and prevent your mind from wandering. It makes you remember the good things in life.
You can savor by taking a photo, taking notes, posting on social media (like I’m doing), taking a memento/souvenir from the experience, sharing it with a friend, meditating on the experience. On my walk, I took a photo, and I am also sharing with you all my experience of WALKING IN NATURE. I don’t know what I would do without my nature walk. Pre-pandemic, I loved it and now I love 💕 it even more because I appreciate it even more in this period of social distancing. I do run into people on my walk these days but most are respectful and aware enough to stay six feet away.
I also see red cardinals and blue jays and Mallard 🦆 ducks and ponds and streams and dogs 🐶 🐕 of all shape size and color. I see feral 🐈 cats and crocuses popping out of the ground. I know I’ll soon start seeing flowers 🌺 galore and butterflies 🦋 and more.
Just writing ✍️ this helps me appreciate this walk even more than normal.
What are you savoring today?
You don’t have to be born with Cindy Crawford’s long legs or Miranda Kerr’s gorgeous face to find dreamy lasting love. Work with what you have. Anyone can be attractive if they set their mind to it.
Be the best that you can be with what you have and you'll attract the right man who wants you, who is attracted to your type. That is a guy who will fight for you in all aspects of your life, and that is what you want.
Don’t think you’re above spending time on your outer appearance. When you’re single and dating, looks mater.
Since many of you are dating online, great photos are a must. I recommend a headshot and one or two body shots. Hire a professional photographer. It will make a big difference. One of my favorites is Teresa Hnat, based in Connecticut, who not only takes stunning photos but will put you at ease so your photography session is fun. (She’ll also give you fantastic “how to pose” tips).
You can find Teresa Hnat’s website here.
Also, if you’re looking for more help with your dating look, consider my “Frumpy to Fabulous” course below:
The course consists of:
💃🏼 *** Simple fixes to improve your dating look. As a former matchmaker who worked with successful men, I know what looks they pass over and what they are attracted to.
💃🏼 *** Drool-worthy clothing links from the top designers.
💃🏼 ***Access to me to hone your dating look and make sure your dating photos are in great shape.
💃🏼***How to dress on blind dates versus Date 10 and beyond, for special occasions and more.
💃🏼 ***How to be fashionable but not too fashionable.
💃🏼 ***How to dress sexy yet not cross the line to slutty or sleazy.
Cost (two-tier pricing):
$549 for 6 lesson plans and personalized electronic help from me throughout 10 days. Includes 3 personalized clothing links mailed to you daily, based on your budget and body type.
Also, up to 1 hour of electronic feedback from me throughout the course.
$249 for 6 lesson plans for 7 days. Daily responses to your questions. (Up to 30 minutes total through the 7-day course). Includes general links to clothes and styles.
Email firstname.lastname@example.org for information about “Frumpy to Fabulous.”
A man must take the lead in a romantic relationship. He must push a relationship forward.
Do you want to know what "the oldest trick in the book" is? Check out this link in Hartford Courant magazine's December issue, where I explain a dating scenario that women need to watch out for.
I've written about this issue in prior blogs, and I'm including the issue in my upcoming book. So stay tuned for even more on this topic.
Are you getting unmatched on Tinder?
I hear a lot of women complaining when this happens. Don't fret.
It could be for a whole host of reasons that have nothing to do with you.
The person could have gotten kicked off the site. Or left voluntarily. (He might have been married and got caught red-handed). It might have been a fake profile that was unmatching you.
You don't know what you're dealing with online, so don't let any of this stuff stress you out.
Focus on what you can control, and that is lining up dates with men who ask you out within four emails. Get on other sites besides Tinder. Sites that clients have had great luck on, besides Tinder, include Match, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Plenty of Fish. (Depending on where you live, certain sites are better than others, so try them all and see how it plays out). Remember, it only takes one guy! He's out there, you just have to try it all.
If you understand men and courtship, you can find your Mr. Right and have the relationship of your dreams.
My group coaching client did just that, getting married in October after working closely together for more than one year.
Here are some of her happy comments, and words of encouragement:
"Thank you Karenna and all the ladies here for all your help and support! Keep going and never lose hope, you’re doing the right thing," she said. " I can’t wait for the professional pictures from our wedding. We had so much fun and we were so happy. Thank you for all the good advice that you gave me that brought us here. The Rules is a lot of work but a great way of living."
"He is a great guy, even my mother asks me where did I find him."
If you'd like to know more about how group coaching can work for you, email email@example.com
Online dating, singles-oriented events, and meeting through work are just some of the ways my single clients meet available men.
I have another option for you to consider. Many women don't know about this, so I want to share it with you: Try getting into a free matchmaking database near a city or town where you live.
MarieClaire Magazine interviewed me recently about dating, and I gave them this tip. If you want to read the article online, click here to read it. My tip is Tip #7.
NOTE: The article discusses how to "break up with the dating apps," which is something I don't advocate. As a dating coach, I believe women should try everything. You never know where Mr. Right will come from. Nor do you know when. But if you're in the swim of things, trying everything I've mentioned above, stay positive, and if you have the right dating strategy, it will happen.
Now when it comes to matchmaking, different matchmaking companies work differently. Some will charge women to be in their databases while others charge women to be clients. However, there are many matchmakers throughout the U.S. and the world who keep women in their databases for free. When I was a matchmaker, I did the same. If I had a male client who was looking for a certain type, I would look immediately in my database to see if I had a match.
Like I said, try everything, and have faith Mr. Right is out there looking for you, too.
If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here:
My personalized plan of action to finding THE ONE in one year gives you the tools to find your Mr. Right.
What you get in this special personalized plan are 4 key tips to finding your Mr. Right.
I'll assess your situation and tell you exactly what you need to do in the next year to find your match!
I've been doing this for 15 years and have gotten many ladies married, engaged and into great relationships with amazing guys. I've found time and time again, there are 4 key areas that need to be present.
I hone in on those areas and send you a personalized blueprint to follow.
The four areas, in a nutshell, are:
1. Having the right strategy. It's a jungle out there, and I can save you a ton of time with the right strategy to weed out time wasters and make the right man step up to the plate.
2. Taking the right actions. There are certain things you need to be doing if you want to meet Mr. Right. You can't hang out with girlfriends at home, or spend all your time at work. You need to meet the universe half way.
3. You need to have the right attitude. A quality man senses when you're unhappy and miserable. Not everyone is happy all the time, but with some tweaks, your attitude can do a 360.
4. Your appearance. Looks are important when dating. It's not that you need to be a model, but you have to be a guy's type. I tell you the things men care about.
To get started, PayPal the Blueprint fee of $299 to firstname.lastname@example.org
Or send an email with any questions.
I can't wait for you to find your special someone!
Celebrities and other VIP guys are like any other men. If they get something too easily, they don't appreciate it. They won't necessarily turn down someone who makes it easy to have a one-night stand. But doing so will work to a woman's disadvantage.
Contrast the story below in "Page Six" about actor Orlando Bloom's one-night stand with a waitress, with the story of how Amal and George met.
Amal reportedly refused George's invitation to visit him in his hotel room. She's a total class act, wasn't out to bag a celebrity or brag about it to her friends. She had high standards, and did the seemingly impossible—ended up getting one of the world's most eligible bachelors to propose.
Here's a link to the waitress who had a hotel tryst that didn't go anywhere.
Stay classy and you'll go farther with men in the long run.
If you'd like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here:
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I give smart successful women tools to weed out time-wasters and teach them how to find their Mr. Rights.