Celebrities and other VIP guys are like any other men.  If they get something too easily, they don't appreciate it. They won't necessarily turn down someone who makes it easy to have a one-night stand. But doing so will work to a woman's disadvantage.

Contrast the story below in "Page Six" about actor Orlando Bloom's one-night stand with a waitress, with the story of how Amal and George met.

Amal reportedly refused George's invitation to visit him in his hotel room. She's a total class act, wasn't out to bag a celebrity or brag about it to her friends. She had high standards, and did the seemingly impossible—ended up getting one of the world's most eligible bachelors to propose.

Here's a link to the waitress who had a hotel tryst that didn't go anywhere.

Stay classy and you'll go farther with men in the long run.

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Don't fall for one of the oldest tricks in the book. Some women are flattered by this type of request from a man. Don't be. When you understand men, you realize when a man asks you over to his house for dinner, it's nothing special. In fact, it can be a bad sign.

His aim is to get you to serve yourself up to him on a silver platter so he can sleep with you easily. It's a lazy way to court a woman. Not all men who ask women to dinner at their house are bad guys. They may be spoiled. 

However, you should turn such a request down. If he's the right guy, he'll respect that you aren't ready to have home dates. If he's not a good guy, you'll weed him out fairly quickly. (There's a time and place for home dates, but this is for much later on).

If a guy drops off because you won't have dinner at his house, be thankful you're weeding out Mr. Wrong. Some guys can't do the courtship dance. It is too much for them. They're either buyer bewares or not quite as interested as you want them to be.

Has a guy ever asked to cook you dinner at his house (or your house)? How did it turn out? Feel free to post below and share your experiences.

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If you've been trying to meet men online, there's a good chance you've run into this question from a man:

"Can you send over more photos?"

This is usually a red flag.

When you have a full body shot and a headshot on an online dating site, there's no reason why a man should be asking for more photos.

Ignore this type of request. 

If a man needs to see more photos to date you, something's off. He isn't convinced you're his type. Or he's collecting photos of women.

You don't want to be part of either. Move on to the next guy.

There's always another man around the corner. 
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xoxo,

Karenna 

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Sometimes an easygoing guy is a great guy, and other times he's indifferent and apathetic about you. The longer you date, the easier it is to figure out which is which.

This is why I advocate multi-dating. Because the man who seems so great in the beginning can turn into a complete cad a few months in.

One woman I know dated a man whose online dating profile said something like: "easygoing, laid back and down-to-earth, treats everyone well."

He seemed that way early on, and on the surface. 

Ultimately, he turned out to be indifferent, entitled, heartless, and quite cold. He planned a fishing trip for her birthday (because he liked to fish), and when that fell through because his friends weren't available for the trip, he skipped her birthday. He basically never said one word when her cat died. He essentially ghosted without saying anything after they'd been together many months.

Morale of the story is words are just words until they're backed up by the actions of a good man who is moving a relationship forward in the right way.

Have you ever dated an easygoing guy who turned out to be indifferent? Feel free to share your story below.
xoxo,

Karenna 

“The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” 
― Elie Wiesel

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​There are so many reasons why this is bad. 
It boils down to boundaries. Having blurred boundaries with an ex, or in general, can mess up a good thing or prevent you from getting into a good thing.

People in unhealthy relationships or those who seem to find themselves in bad relationships often have blurry boundaries in general and that includes staying too close to exes and others who aren't good for them. When you strengthen your boundaries overall, your relationships become better in all areas of your life.

An ex is an ex for a reason. Even if your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband is a great guy, you should focus on meeting other men. Frankly, I see too many women clinging to exes—who were bad for them—for low-level reasons, including for financial perks, a shoulder to cry on, and help when they get into an emergency situation, like a car accident. That's what AAA is for. That's what family, friends, neighbors, support groups, etc. etc. etc., are for.

And there's no reason for a woman to ever give an ex a gift for a holiday or any other occasion. Unless you're divorced and you have a 5-year-old child together, for example, and your child wants to give "daddy" a Father's Day (or whatever holiday) gift. You should buy a gift so your 5-year-old can give his father a gift. Beyond that, gift giving to an ex is extremely unhealthy and dysfunctional and evidence of very poor boundaries. Plus, masculine men don't want gifts, especially from ex-es. (More on gift giving in another blog).

This isn't to say you're nasty to your ex. If you have to be in touch, you have to be in touch, but keep it at a surface level. You may need to stay in touch because of your children, or due to professional or other reasons, but even in those cases, be cordial, but that's it. 

If you're having problems with your current boyfriend, the last person on earth you should be talking to is your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband. If you're doing this, it means you need new and better friends.

If your ex is happy and in love, leave him be. It’s bad karma to mess with a man who’s taken. If he's a healthy guy who has moved on and is in a healthy relationship, he'll be happy you're leaving him alone. 
And if he’s the type of guy who has a weak ego that needs to be fed by weird drama, stay away. If he's one of those messed-up guys who loves messed-up relationships, you may be feeding his sick ego by staying in his life, and he may be using your calls and presence in a sick attempt to make his current girlfriend or wife jealous.
Former or latter, you don't want any part of either scenario.  You have your own beautiful life to focus on.

Some clients have asked me what to say to an ex when they run into him at work or elsewhere. These women don't have children in common or professional reasons to be in touch, but they wonder if they should be polite. If he was a decent guy who treated you well, you can be polite and cordial, of course. But if the guy turned out to be a creep, steer clear. He doesn't deserve a second of your precious time. Don't squander the sexy!

xoxo, 

Karenna 

Ghosting is one of those dating terms that's been bandied about in the press as an abhorrent dating trend.
People talk about it like it's a bad thing.
Sure, when a man ghosts he's certainly Mr. Wrong. But this is a good thing because it shows you his true colors sooner rather than later. It's saves you time.
When a man disappears without a breakup speech, that's communication. When he says: "I'll call you," after a great first date and then disappears, that's also communication.
Silence is your answer loud and clear.
He could very well be a bad news guy who is not relationship material, and will likely make up some excuse that doesn't mean anything anyway.
Heed the silence and move on.
There's no need to ever follow up with a man, asking him questions as to why he disappeared. That's way beneath your dignity. When it's Mr. Right, you know it.
Sure, it would be nice if all men could be respectful to someone they've slept with and spent time with, and give a respectful closure conversation. But not all men are great guys. Be thankful when this type of guy leaves your life.
This is why I suggest women have lots of balls in the air while dating, even when dating someone they like. Go slow on accepting exclusivity. Keep your online dating profile up for as long as you can, until you're sure you're with a good guy. 
A lot can happen. Often times men are charming early on, and their true colors aren't apparent until a few months in. 

Karenna 

I'll be coming to a theater near you! That is, if you live in Connecticut. If you do, make sure to get your tickets to my "Listen to Your Heart," event at the Palace Theater in Waterbury. I'll be there on Jan. 11, it's a Saturday, and I will take the stage at noon. 
This speaking engagement is part of the Palace Theater's 2ND ACT series.
I explain how my 2ND ACT came from the heart, and I will help you figure out your 2ND ACT. Or if you already know what it is, I'll give you tips on how to succeed business wise.
As many of you know, I'm a dating and relationship expert, and former matchmaker, who helps women date with self-esteem and boundaries, and find true love. 
If you're looking for love in all the wrong places, come on out and hear me share secrets to finding love in the 21st century.
​Here's the link to purchase tickets. Hope to see you all there. 

Do you want to get crystal clear on your Mr. Forever, so clear and confident in what you want, that you have no choice but to MAN-ifest it?
What if I told you, you could get there.
For only $29.
That's the cost of my Getting Clarity on Mr. Forever workbook with 5 days of lessons.
E-mail karennaalexander@gmail.com for the 5-day workbook. 
​Here's a quick snapshot of the booklet:
❤️ Day 1 - Getting Clear on Your Ideal Man and Why You Want Him.
❤️ Day 2 - How Does This Clarity Feel?
❤️ Day 3 - What if He Showed Up Today? Are You Ready?
❤️ Day 4 - Just Make One Change or Shift Today.
❤️ Day 5 - How to Feel it Into Existence.
If you aren't crystal clear, you may still have work to do.If you think Mr. Forever is coming, you will get him.
But first, you need to get clarity on what you want
before you can get it.
Clarity is powerful.
It is about getting super definite about the details.
The universe loves details. Plus, clarity leads to confidence,
which is sexy and exactly the state of mind you need to be in to find your dream guy.
If you are on that hamster wheel and struggling to find that special someone, your mindset could need work. It could very well be the missing link.
​Life is too short to be miserable! Even if you get him, if you are not happy, what's the point?

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Upgrade to Tinder Gold if you want the best results.
Basic Tinder can work  in limited cases. But, it’s better to pay the extra $30 or so a month for Tinder Gold. 
The reason is because Tinder Gold allows you to see who picked you first. This way, you’re swiping on a pool of men who already liked you.
When you have basic Tinder, this balance can get messed up. I’ll explain a scenario that can occur if you have basic Tinder and a man has Tinder Gold.
Say you’re swiping and you see a guy who has Tinder Gold. You swipe right because you think he’s cute and interesting. He sees you pop up in his queue of people who liked him. He may not have picked you (he may have swiped left on you), but because you’re in his queue, he’s like “Why not?” and swipes right. He may pursue you a little, but if it’s not ardent pursuit, what’s the point?
It’s a waste of your time. 
So better to have Tinder Gold so you know who’s swiping right on you from the beginning. Men are visual and they know what they want, so you want to make sure you hold out of the man who wants you. 
Make sense? 

xoxo,

Karenna