Are you turning off men on the first date, without realizing what you are doing wrong?
You can kill a good thing if you don’t understand men.
When I was a matchmaker, I learned firsthand that it’s not enough to be beautiful. That helps, and that will draw men to you, but if you don’t have the right strategy down, a guy can lose his attraction pretty fast.
Many gorgeous women don’t understand men well. They think that because they are gorgeous, that all men want them, and that is not necessarily the case. A man may think they are stunning, but all men have types and are drawn to specific types. Some men are attracted to the girl next door.
I had a wealthy client who I set up with a beautiful model in her late 20s.
He was attracted to her, but she turned him off during the date by being aggressive and controlling. 
After their first date at a swank NYC restaurant, he told me that he was turned off by several harsh statements, and by being interrogated about several things, including whether he wanted children. 
He said she turned him off because she came off as demanding and desperate (to him it felt like she was asking him, after one date, to have her child), and he was surprised I didn’t coach her better. I laughed because I do coach women not to reveal too much on Date Zero, and even beyond. But not all women are ready or willing to listen to the advice.
Whether or not you are a model, you can have the man of your dreams if you follow the right dating strategy. Take it slow. Don’t ruin things on a Date Zero by revealing too much or being demanding or controlling. And don’t see a man every day for the first month. (This happens!)
A slow courtship will get you much further than a marathon first meeting that lasts for hours, or days and then flames out as fast as it started. 
You can learn a ton more about a man through a slow courtship than by a fast one that begins with a first-date interrogation. If the relationship moves too swiftly, it crashes and burns fast and is no fun for you or the guy. Men love a little mystery.
Of course there is more to it, and if you would like to learn more about how to put your best foot forward in the dating arena - on the inside and outside - contact Karenna by applying here or reply to this email: 
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Guys need to love your outsides before they can love your insides. 
It’s just how men are wired. It is what it is, and if you want to date a man, you need to dress for men. If you want a romantic relationship, where you are loved and adored by your dream man, you need to look the part. 
It doesn’t have to do so much with age and with having model looks, either. 
It’s about being the best you can be, and dressing for men.
Unfortunately, too many women think they know what they are doing, but they aren’t getting results online and when I look at their online dating profiles, I realize why.
Online dating is becoming such a big way for people to meet - and so those who have great online dating photos - and who present themselves well on the date - are going to do the best in this arena.

Here are some tips below to as you prepare to get your online photos taken. 

Also consider my “Online Dating" package, which is on Summer Special only through Aug. 24, 2018, for $108. Simply email karennaalexander@gmail.com and I will sign you up! If you are reading this post after the Summer Special ends, there will be a different fee, although the course will be the same. The package will give you all the tools to succeed online.
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Here are a few tips to get you started:

Be your best self. Dress and primp like you were going to a wedding, reunion or a fancy event. This should also be how you dress on a date with a guy that you like. 
What you shouldn’t do is post a photo from 10 years ago or more and expect the guy to be easygoing about it. 
(Well, he may be easygoing on the outside, but it will bother him, as I have heard this time and time again from men).
The small things matter in the photos and on your dates. 
Think of the things you might do when you are going to a special event. We may not do these things every day just to go to work, but we will do them for a special occasion, and you should also do it for your online dating photos because you want a big bang for your buck from these photos.
The little extras I refer to above can include: face waxing, eyebrow shaping and any other hair removal, and a facial or some face care routine that leaves your skin bright and healthy looking, not dry and dull.
Also, try to get a fake tan in the days leading up to the photo shoot as the bronze look is very sexy. If you can’t get a tan, have the make-up artist give you a sun-kissed bronze look, which comes across as sultry in photos. 
I would definitely leave the day of your photo shoot to the make-up pros - ask for recommendations for good makeup artists in your area.
Have them put on false eyelashes - they always add to the look and make the photos come across as super glamorous and special. If you can find a makeup artist who uses airbrushing techniques for foundation, go for that- airbrushing coverage is very stunning. 
In terms of looks that seem to transfer well, there are variations based on each individual woman, but I do find that nude or light colors on the lips go well with a more heavily made up eye look. When you do the heavily made up eye, stay away from darker colors on the lips, like reds, because it is simply too much. 
Form-fitting dresses and V-neck tops (show some skin but not too much) with tight skirts (but not too tight) work great. Heels are a must for the full length body photos.
Colors, I find, are very individual. Many women look good all in black, while others find they need to add a little color or else they look too drab in simple black.
Make sure you smile and giggle on the day of the shoot. If the photographer asks for an artsy shot, I would try to steer him away from it. Dating photos should be friendly, smiling, upbeat. 
Three photos are all you need overall. You can even get away with two photos, a headshot and a body shot. I like two body shots, though, because guys do want to know what one’s full body looks like.  Many men have told me they have gotten very burned by women’s photos. When they see two full body shots that look good, they are happy they are truly getting the full picture, so to speak.
Ladies, for more help, sign up for my special package and I will give you extra special inside tips that will draw men to your photos and your online dating profile. During the week of my special package, I will also give you texting tips that will make online dating more efficient - weeding out the time wasters and drawing the dreamy guys to you. 🌹🌹
xoxo, 
Karenna

Like Attracts Like

​Many of you smart and beautiful ladies complain to me that you don't know where to go to meet your Mr. Forever.
You think: "If only I lived in a certain city," or "If only I was richer and could go to certain events." 

In reality, the lack of men in your life has as much to do with your insides as it does with your outsides.
Of course there are ways to optimize the amount and caliber of single men you are meeting - online and in person. But that is only half the battle.

The other battle is internal. 

Like attracts like, and keeping your vibe high is a choice. 
When dating, don’t discount the importance of your attitude. If you are meeting the wrong people, or aren't meeting anyone, it could be because you yourself have a bad attitude. 
Here are some things to ponder: 
💟 If you are attracting unavailable people, look inside and see what part of you is also unavailable, what part of you fears commitment. 
💟 If you are meeting people who use you for certain things, i.e. your connections, your wealth, for sex, or whatever, look at what you are putting out there into the world.
💟 If you are attracting people who are unusually mean to you, look inside to see how you are mean or rough to yourself or others. 
Yes, it may be hard to look inside and face the truth, but the benefits are worth it. ❣️
For those of you ready to jump start your love life today, I offer a special $500 course, called "Getting Clarity on Mr. Forever," where we focus on both the insides and outsides. 

It's packed with tools to get you to the alter. Basically, after helping ladies get married for the past 15 years, I have discovered the four keys and I teach them to you in this course.

I also help you get crystal clear on what you desire, so you have no choice but to manifest it. And I help you with fears and blocks - many women on a hamster wheel are on that wheel because they have fears that are holding them back. 

AND, you get one month of personalized electronic coaching from me during the course. Priceless. xoxo

To get started, simply send an email back to me, or  email karennaalexander@gmail.com

xoxo, 
Karenna 

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Don’t always listen to what men say!
Don’t let a guy trip you up with his words.
Actions are way more important.

It’s not that words are irrelevant. They are part of the whole package. 

BUT, if the words aren’t matching the music, then you have a problem.

I get why you would want to take what a guy says at face value. Who doesn’t want to trust, and take what everyone says at face value?

When it comes to dating, and men in the initial stages of a relationship, you need to be careful, however.

Here is an example of something guys say that can easily trip you up! 

He may say “I love you,” early on. Those words aren’t too shabby - I agree. But if he’s not consistently asking you out, if he’s not stepping up to the plate, and bringing up exclusivity, and moving things along, then the words are meaningless.
While you are having a hot and heavy evening together, he may blurt out: “I think I’m falling in love.”

He may not be trying to hurt you deliberately. Guys aren’t always trying to hurt a girl. They may feel it in the moment, but then they just aren’t sure you are the one and so they don’t follow up the way you want them to.

​“I think I’m falling in love,” followed by weeks of silence is a hollow sentiment. 
Meanwhile, “I think I’m falling in love,” followed by a guy who is in your life, moving things forward, seeing you on weekends and integrating you into his life, is what you are looking for.

The time you really want to pay attention to words is when he says something negative, like: “I would never want to marry again. My last relationship burned me forever.” Or, “I don’t usually date women who look like you. Most of my exes were models.” 

Anything negative is not good.
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So ladies, be smart. Don’t be seduced by words. As much as you would love sweet sentiments to be true, be patient and evaluate - via actions as well as words - whether he is the right man for you.

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If your search for Mr. Forever has hit a few snags, make sure you reach out! You don’t need to do this alone, and if price is an issue, I have a low cost group coaching option that you should take advantage of. Prices will be going up again Monday at midnight, so if you want in, it’s best to join right away to get the low locked-in price.

Do you want the best and most effective dating advice out there from a seasoned pro who has helped many women achieve the seemingly impossible: meeting and marrying their Mr. Forever?

The courtships you never believed were possible. The cute catch who is after you - you are no longer after the guy who doesn't want you back! 

The flowers, the Saturday night dates, a cute guy to share Valentine's Day and New Year's Eve with.

This is what you will get in the group coaching course: 

• You will have me available in a special Facebook group called "Karenna Alexander and the It Girls of the World," to answer questions that come up about dating and relationships. You get my extensive expertise without the high price tag of private coaching.

• Once a month, we will have a conference call, where you can ‘Ask Me Anything’ live.
• Every week, there will be a Q and A in the closed Facebook group, where I will answer your questions under the post for that week.
• Also, each week, I will post a lesson on a different topic. Past lessons have included tips you probably have never heard of before about online dating, getting better boundaries and getting over blocks. 
• All the prior posts will be archived in the group, so you can always refer back to them, as long as you are a paying member of the group.

I worked as a matchmaker in NYC and in the uber richest part of Connecticut for several years. Working with men, I learned a ton about them, and will share the inside scoop with you. You really do want me in your corner! I know how men think. :)

If you join before the price goes up by MIDNIGHT Monday, the rate will never change. That's why it's important to get in now!

COST:  $30 if you buy the monthly option and $50 for 3 months of coaching.
Again, the rates will be going up Monday (midnight of the time zone where you live), so lock this price in forever by purchasing the group coaching program now. 

TO SIGN UP: All you need to do is email karennaalexander@gmail.com for the payment link, and feel free to email if you have any questions at all. Once payment is taken care of, you will immediately be let into the Facebook group.

I can't wait to see you there, and start helping you find your Mr. Forever!!! Looking forward to you being my next success story. 

xoxox,
Karenna

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Ladies, if you feel like you are spinning your wheels and not finding high quality men, join my group coaching course, which has super special low rates right now. Prices are going up Monday at midnight! 
It’s $30 if you buy the monthly option and $50 for 3 months of coaching.
Again, the rates will be going up Monday (at midnight of the time zone where you live), so lock this price in forever by purchasing the group coaching program now. 
All you need to do is email karennaalexander@gmail.com for the payment link, and feel free to email if you have any questions at all.

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If you would like to apply to work with me through one of my private coaching programs, click here to apply.

Men tend to get a bad rap when it comes to being willing to commit to relationships. I’m sure I am not telling you anything new here - many women like to brand men as players, and jerks who simply don’t want to commit.

In my work as a dating coach, I have seen some truth to that stereotype, for sure. But I also have seen that there are a fair amount of men who can and will commit when it’s the right woman. They will commit when they are in love, and especially when a woman gives them space and when she doesn’t try to change them.

I also see another stereotype at play, involving women. Women get pegged as the clingy pursuers who are desperate to get married. While this is another stereotype that can sometimes be true, I have also noticed that many women have commitment issues as well.

Some women are so afraid of intimacy - due to childhood or other issues - they fear settling down. Sometimes they aren’t even aware of what they are doing, and they are on that hamster wheel, frustrated as to why things may not ever be working out in their romantic lives.

They may sabotage relationships time and time again.

Could this be you perhaps?

One of the traits I see in women who are afraid to commit is extreme pickiness about members of the opposite sex. 

No one is good enough for them, and they remain single. They are looking for perfection, and can’t seem to find anyone who is good enough for them. Upon closer inspection and discussion with them, I often find that there are underlying fears there. Perhaps an ex hurt them so badly they have never been able to recover. Or their childhood was so dysfunctional they simply don’t believe they can ever find happiness with a man.

Instead of examining their fears, and figuring out a way to move past them, they spend their lives turning away really good guys. Not perfect men, but men who would make them perfectly happy. 

Another surprisingly common behavior I see is that women fall for guys who are all wrong for them. What I believe is really happening is they are often recreating a pattern from their childhood, and many times they aren’t even aware of what is going on. A big part of what is going on is fear of commitment. These ladies will never commit to these unavailable men. In fact, these men aren’t in it for the long haul either. So there’s no worry about committing on either side. 

The problem is when you date unavailable men you waste a ton of time, and don’t find the love that you truly deserve. Everyone deserves true healthy love, even if you don’t think you deserve it, and even if you think you will never get it based on your past conditioning.

The first step to conquer this issue is to recognize that you have this problem. If you see yourself in any of these examples, ponder the situation a bit. The first step in changing any problem is simply recognizing that there is a problem. Then, you can work on it.
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Feel free to reach out to me as well, as I created a special course to help ladies with the crucial inner work, called MAN-ifesting Mr. Forever, which helps ladies with inner blocks that are keeping them stuck.

Ladies, if you feel like you are spinning your wheels and not finding high quality men, the answer could be due to subconscious dating patterns. Apply here to discuss whether I can help you in your search for Mr. Forever.

xoxo,
Karenna

Happy New Year everyone!
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Let’s start 2018 off brimming with positivity and good vibes! In all aspects of your life, including in your online dating profile.

When your online dating profile is negative, the men and the experiences you attract will be negative, too.

Here are some tips to keep in mind while writing (or editing, i.e. improving on) your profile.

DON’T write about what you don't want.

Too many women don’t get this!

Just like it’s a negative way of approaching life, it’s a negative way of approaching dating. 

For anyone who has done manifesting work, this will come as no surprise. Whenever you are putting something out there into the world, you put it out there in a positive way. In fact, the times I do manifesting work that mentions anything negative, I erase the comments (or toss the paper) so they aren't lingering around. I keep only the positive declarations in my written and online journals.

Plus, when you say in your profile something like: “I don’t want manipulative men,” it’s essentially a turn-off to an emotionally healthy guy. A high quality guy knows - subconsciously or consciously - to stay clear. That kind of phrase leads him to believe that a woman’s prior relationships were likely messy and unhealthy.

Another reason not to write what you don't want in an online dating profile is because it does no good anyhow. It won't necessarily prevent the guys you don't want from contacting you. Asking for someone who is not a player won't ensure that a player won't ask you out. 

The best way to keep those guys from coming into your life is to have the right mindset and the right dating strategy.

You can write about your hobbies and interests and of course deal-breakers, like religion, locale, kids situation, and age. Those are important. Beyond that, you can talk on the date and let them learn more about you then.

Also, you must watch a guy’s actions throughout the dating process. You don’t jump into anything too fast. You don’t accept exclusivity too soon. You don’t have sex too soon. You take it slow because that’s the best way to see what a guy is made of.
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The thing to put the most effort in when putting together an online dating profile is your profile photos, because as we all know, photos are the main thing guys look at.
Beyond that, keep your profile short sweet and upbeat!