If you understand men and courtship, you can find your Mr. Right and have the relationship of your dreams.
My group coaching client did just that, getting married in October after working closely together for more than one year. Here are some of her happy comments, and words of encouragement: "Thank you Karenna and all the ladies here for all your help and support! Keep going and never lose hope, you’re doing the right thing," she said. " I can’t wait for the professional pictures from our wedding. We had so much fun and we were so happy. Thank you for all the good advice that you gave me that brought us here. The Rules is a lot of work but a great way of living." "He is a great guy, even my mother asks me where did I find him." xoxo, Karenna P.S. If you'd like to know more about how group coaching can work for you, email karennaalexander@gmail.com ![]() Online dating, singles-oriented events, and meeting through work are just some of the ways my single clients meet available men. I have another option for you to consider. Many women don't know about this, so I want to share it with you: Try getting into a free matchmaking database near a city or town where you live. MarieClaire Magazine interviewed me recently about dating, and I gave them this tip. If you want to read the article online, click here to read it. My tip is Tip #7. NOTE: The article discusses how to "break up with the dating apps," which is something I don't advocate. As a dating coach, I believe women should try everything. You never know where Mr. Right will come from. Nor do you know when. But if you're in the swim of things, trying everything I've mentioned above, stay positive, and if you have the right dating strategy, it will happen. Now when it comes to matchmaking, different matchmaking companies work differently. Some will charge women to be in their databases while others charge women to be clients. However, there are many matchmakers throughout the U.S. and the world who keep women in their databases for free. When I was a matchmaker, I did the same. If I had a male client who was looking for a certain type, I would look immediately in my database to see if I had a match. Like I said, try everything, and have faith Mr. Right is out there looking for you, too. If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF My personalized plan of action to finding THE ONE in one year gives you the tools to find your Mr. Right.
What you get in this special personalized plan are 4 key tips to finding your Mr. Right. I'll assess your situation and tell you exactly what you need to do in the next year to find your match! I've been doing this for 15 years and have gotten many ladies married, engaged and into great relationships with amazing guys. I've found time and time again, there are 4 key areas that need to be present. I hone in on those areas and send you a personalized blueprint to follow. The four areas, in a nutshell, are: 1. Having the right strategy. It's a jungle out there, and I can save you a ton of time with the right strategy to weed out time wasters and make the right man step up to the plate. 2. Taking the right actions. There are certain things you need to be doing if you want to meet Mr. Right. You can't hang out with girlfriends at home, or spend all your time at work. You need to meet the universe half way. 3. You need to have the right attitude. A quality man senses when you're unhappy and miserable. Not everyone is happy all the time, but with some tweaks, your attitude can do a 360. 4. Your appearance. Looks are important when dating. It's not that you need to be a model, but you have to be a guy's type. I tell you the things men care about. To get started, PayPal the Blueprint fee of $299 to coachkarenna@karennaalexander.com Or send an email with any questions. I can't wait for you to find your special someone! xoxo, Karenna Celebrities and other VIP guys are like any other men. If they get something too easily, they don't appreciate it. They won't necessarily turn down someone who makes it easy to have a one-night stand. But doing so will work to a woman's disadvantage.
Contrast the story below in "Page Six" about actor Orlando Bloom's one-night stand with a waitress, with the story of how Amal and George met. Amal reportedly refused George's invitation to visit him in his hotel room. She's a total class act, wasn't out to bag a celebrity or brag about it to her friends. She had high standards, and did the seemingly impossible—ended up getting one of the world's most eligible bachelors to propose. Here's a link to the waitress who had a hotel tryst that didn't go anywhere. Stay classy and you'll go farther with men in the long run. If you'd like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF If you would like to purchase my booklet called Getting Clarity on Mr. Forever, email me at coachkarenna@karennaalexander.com and I'll send it to you. For the price of only $29, the booklet helps you get crystal clear on your Mr. Forever, so clear and confident in what you want that you have no choice but to MAN-ifest it. DISCLAIMER: While there are men like this out there, not all men want this type of relationship! When reading Is There Still Sex in the City by Candace Bushnell I was struck by how real the characters seemed, especially the guy I call Mr. SUPER SHALLOW, because he’s 75 (says he’s 68), dates decades younger, and doesn’t care if the women he sleeps with are even attracted to him. He just wants sex. I was struck by this character because I know this type of man exists, and have seen him in my career as a dating coach and matchmaker. For some men, relationships are just transactional. Thankfully all men aren’t like this. I used this example in Bushnell’s 📖 book during a talk I gave this weekend called “A Day in the Life of Your Next Protagonist,” speaking before the Romance Writers of America, who wanted to know what a day in the life of a love 💝 expert looks 👀 like. For more, listen to a snippet of my talk in the accompanying video. Don't fall for one of the oldest tricks in the book. Some women are flattered by this type of request from a man. Don't be. When you understand men, you realize when a man asks you over to his house for dinner, it's nothing special. In fact, it can be a bad sign. His aim is to get you to serve yourself up to him on a silver platter so he can sleep with you easily. It's a lazy way to court a woman. Not all men who ask women to dinner at their house are bad guys. They may be spoiled. However, you should turn such a request down. If he's the right guy, he'll respect that you aren't ready to have home dates. If he's not a good guy, you'll weed him out fairly quickly. (There's a time and place for home dates, but this is for much later on). If a guy drops off because you won't have dinner at his house, be thankful you're weeding out Mr. Wrong. Some guys can't do the courtship dance. It is too much for them. They're either buyer bewares or not quite as interested as you want them to be. Has a guy ever asked to cook you dinner at his house (or your house)? How did it turn out? Feel free to post below and share your experiences. If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF If you've been trying to meet men online, there's a good chance you've run into this question from a man:
"Can you send over more photos?" This is usually a red flag. When you have a full body shot and a headshot on an online dating site, there's no reason why a man should be asking for more photos. Ignore this type of request. If a man needs to see more photos to date you, something's off. He isn't convinced you're his type. Or he's collecting photos of women. You don't want to be part of either. Move on to the next guy. There's always another man around the corner. xoxo, Karenna If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF Sometimes an easygoing guy is a great guy, and other times he's indifferent and apathetic about you. The longer you date, the easier it is to figure out which is which. This is why I advocate multi-dating. Because the man who seems so great in the beginning can turn into a complete cad a few months in. One woman I know dated a man whose online dating profile said something like: "easygoing, laid back and down-to-earth, treats everyone well." He seemed that way early on, and on the surface. Ultimately, he turned out to be indifferent, entitled, heartless, and quite cold. He planned a fishing trip for her birthday (because he liked to fish), and when that fell through because his friends weren't available for the trip, he skipped her birthday. He basically never said one word when her cat died. He essentially ghosted without saying anything after they'd been together many months. Morale of the story is words are just words until they're backed up by the actions of a good man who is moving a relationship forward in the right way. Have you ever dated an easygoing guy who turned out to be indifferent? Feel free to share your story below. xoxo, Karenna “The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” ― Elie Wiesel If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here to work with me: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF There are so many reasons why this is bad. It boils down to boundaries. Having blurred boundaries with an ex, or in general, can mess up a good thing or prevent you from getting into a good thing. People in unhealthy relationships or those who seem to find themselves in bad relationships often have blurry boundaries in general and that includes staying too close to exes and others who aren't good for them. When you strengthen your boundaries overall, your relationships become better in all areas of your life. An ex is an ex for a reason. Even if your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband is a great guy, you should focus on meeting other men. Frankly, I see too many women clinging to exes—who were bad for them—for low-level reasons, including for financial perks, a shoulder to cry on, and help when they get into an emergency situation, like a car accident. That's what AAA is for. That's what family, friends, neighbors, support groups, etc. etc. etc., are for. And there's no reason for a woman to ever give an ex a gift for a holiday or any other occasion. Unless you're divorced and you have a 5-year-old child together, for example, and your child wants to give "daddy" a Father's Day (or whatever holiday) gift. You should buy a gift so your 5-year-old can give his father a gift. Beyond that, gift giving to an ex is extremely unhealthy and dysfunctional and evidence of very poor boundaries. Plus, masculine men don't want gifts, especially from ex-es. (More on gift giving in another blog). This isn't to say you're nasty to your ex. If you have to be in touch, you have to be in touch, but keep it at a surface level. You may need to stay in touch because of your children, or due to professional or other reasons, but even in those cases, be cordial, but that's it. If you're having problems with your current boyfriend, the last person on earth you should be talking to is your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband. If you're doing this, it means you need new and better friends. If your ex is happy and in love, leave him be. It’s bad karma to mess with a man who’s taken. If he's a healthy guy who has moved on and is in a healthy relationship, he'll be happy you're leaving him alone. And if he’s the type of guy who has a weak ego that needs to be fed by weird drama, stay away. If he's one of those messed-up guys who loves messed-up relationships, you may be feeding his sick ego by staying in his life, and he may be using your calls and presence in a sick attempt to make his current girlfriend or wife jealous. Former or latter, you don't want any part of either scenario. You have your own beautiful life to focus on. Some clients have asked me what to say to an ex when they run into him at work or elsewhere. These women don't have children in common or professional reasons to be in touch, but they wonder if they should be polite. If he was a decent guy who treated you well, you can be polite and cordial, of course. But if the guy turned out to be a creep, steer clear. He doesn't deserve a second of your precious time. Don't squander the sexy! xoxo, Karenna Ghosting is one of those dating terms that's been bandied about in the press as an abhorrent dating trend. People talk about it like it's a bad thing. Sure, when a man ghosts he's certainly Mr. Wrong. But this is a good thing because it shows you his true colors sooner rather than later. It's saves you time. When a man disappears without a breakup speech, that's communication. When he says: "I'll call you," after a great first date and then disappears, that's also communication. Silence is your answer loud and clear. He could very well be a bad news guy who is not relationship material, and will likely make up some excuse that doesn't mean anything anyway. Heed the silence and move on. There's no need to ever follow up with a man, asking him questions as to why he disappeared. That's way beneath your dignity. When it's Mr. Right, you know it. Sure, it would be nice if all men could be respectful to someone they've slept with and spent time with, and give a respectful closure conversation. But not all men are great guys. Be thankful when this type of guy leaves your life. This is why I suggest women have lots of balls in the air while dating, even when dating someone they like. Go slow on accepting exclusivity. Keep your online dating profile up for as long as you can, until you're sure you're with a good guy. A lot can happen. Often times men are charming early on, and their true colors aren't apparent until a few months in. Karenna |
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