Are you turning off men on the first date, without realizing what you are doing wrong?
You can kill a good thing if you don’t understand men.
When I was a matchmaker, I learned firsthand that it’s not enough to be beautiful. That helps, and that will draw men to you, but if you don’t have the right strategy down, a guy can lose his attraction pretty fast.
Many gorgeous women don’t understand men well. They think that because they are gorgeous, that all men want them, and that is not necessarily the case. A man may think they are stunning, but all men have types and are drawn to specific types. Some men are attracted to the girl next door.
I had a wealthy client who I set up with a beautiful model in her late 20s.
He was attracted to her, but she turned him off during the date by being aggressive and controlling.
After their first date at a swank NYC restaurant, he told me that he was turned off by several harsh statements, and by being interrogated about several things, including whether he wanted children.
He said she turned him off because she came off as demanding and desperate (to him it felt like she was asking him, after one date, to have her child), and he was surprised I didn’t coach her better. I laughed because I do coach women not to reveal too much on Date Zero, and even beyond. But not all women are ready or willing to listen to the advice.
Whether or not you are a model, you can have the man of your dreams if you follow the right dating strategy. Take it slow. Don’t ruin things on a Date Zero by revealing too much or being demanding or controlling. And don’t see a man every day for the first month. (This happens!)
A slow courtship will get you much further than a marathon first meeting that lasts for hours, or days and then flames out as fast as it started.
You can learn a ton more about a man through a slow courtship than by a fast one that begins with a first-date interrogation. If the relationship moves too swiftly, it crashes and burns fast and is no fun for you or the guy. Men love a little mystery.
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Guys need to love your outsides before they can love your insides.
It’s just how men are wired. It is what it is, and if you want to date a man, you need to dress for men. If you want a romantic relationship, where you are loved and adored by your dream man, you need to look the part.
It doesn’t have to do so much with age and with having model looks, either.
It’s about being the best you can be, and dressing for men.
Unfortunately, too many women think they know what they are doing, but they aren’t getting results online and when I look at their online dating profiles, I realize why.
Online dating is becoming such a big way for people to meet - and so those who have great online dating photos - and who present themselves well on the date - are going to do the best in this arena.
Here are some tips below to as you prepare to get your online photos taken.
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Here are a few tips to get you started:
Be your best self. Dress and primp like you were going to a wedding, reunion or a fancy event. This should also be how you dress on a date with a guy that you like.
What you shouldn’t do is post a photo from 10 years ago or more and expect the guy to be easygoing about it.
(Well, he may be easygoing on the outside, but it will bother him, as I have heard this time and time again from men).
The small things matter in the photos and on your dates.
Think of the things you might do when you are going to a special event. We may not do these things every day just to go to work, but we will do them for a special occasion, and you should also do it for your online dating photos because you want a big bang for your buck from these photos.
The little extras I refer to above can include: face waxing, eyebrow shaping and any other hair removal, and a facial or some face care routine that leaves your skin bright and healthy looking, not dry and dull.
Also, try to get a fake tan in the days leading up to the photo shoot as the bronze look is very sexy. If you can’t get a tan, have the make-up artist give you a sun-kissed bronze look, which comes across as sultry in photos.
I would definitely leave the day of your photo shoot to the make-up pros - ask for recommendations for good makeup artists in your area.
Have them put on false eyelashes - they always add to the look and make the photos come across as super glamorous and special. If you can find a makeup artist who uses airbrushing techniques for foundation, go for that- airbrushing coverage is very stunning.
In terms of looks that seem to transfer well, there are variations based on each individual woman, but I do find that nude or light colors on the lips go well with a more heavily made up eye look. When you do the heavily made up eye, stay away from darker colors on the lips, like reds, because it is simply too much.
Form-fitting dresses and V-neck tops (show some skin but not too much) with tight skirts (but not too tight) work great. Heels are a must for the full length body photos.
Colors, I find, are very individual. Many women look good all in black, while others find they need to add a little color or else they look too drab in simple black.
Make sure you smile and giggle on the day of the shoot. If the photographer asks for an artsy shot, I would try to steer him away from it. Dating photos should be friendly, smiling, upbeat.
Three photos are all you need overall. You can even get away with two photos, a headshot and a body shot. I like two body shots, though, because guys do want to know what one’s full body looks like. Many men have told me they have gotten very burned by women’s photos. When they see two full body shots that look good, they are happy they are truly getting the full picture, so to speak.
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Like Attracts Like
Many of you smart and beautiful ladies complain to me that you don't know where to go to meet your Mr. Forever.
You think: "If only I lived in a certain city," or "If only I was richer and could go to certain events."
In reality, the lack of men in your life has as much to do with your insides as it does with your outsides.
Of course there are ways to optimize the amount and caliber of single men you are meeting - online and in person. But that is only half the battle.
The other battle is internal.
Like attracts like, and keeping your vibe high is a choice.
When dating, don’t discount the importance of your attitude. If you are meeting the wrong people, or aren't meeting anyone, it could be because you yourself have a bad attitude.
Here are some things to ponder:
💟 If you are attracting unavailable people, look inside and see what part of you is also unavailable, what part of you fears commitment.
💟 If you are meeting people who use you for certain things, i.e. your connections, your wealth, for sex, or whatever, look at what you are putting out there into the world.
💟 If you are attracting people who are unusually mean to you, look inside to see how you are mean or rough to yourself or others.
Yes, it may be hard to look inside and face the truth, but the benefits are worth it. ❣️
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Don’t always listen to what men say!
Don’t let a guy trip you up with his words.
Actions are way more important.
It’s not that words are irrelevant. They are part of the whole package.
BUT, if the words aren’t matching the music, then you have a problem.
I get why you would want to take what a guy says at face value. Who doesn’t want to trust, and take what everyone says at face value?
When it comes to dating, and men in the initial stages of a relationship, you need to be careful, however.
Here is an example of something guys say that can easily trip you up!
He may say “I love you,” early on. Those words aren’t too shabby - I agree. But if he’s not consistently asking you out, if he’s not stepping up to the plate, and bringing up exclusivity, and moving things along, then the words are meaningless.
While you are having a hot and heavy evening together, he may blurt out: “I think I’m falling in love.”
He may not be trying to hurt you deliberately. Guys aren’t always trying to hurt a girl. They may feel it in the moment, but then they just aren’t sure you are the one and so they don’t follow up the way you want them to.
“I think I’m falling in love,” followed by weeks of silence is a hollow sentiment.
Meanwhile, “I think I’m falling in love,” followed by a guy who is in your life, moving things forward, seeing you on weekends and integrating you into his life, is what you are looking for.
The time you really want to pay attention to words is when he says something negative, like: “I would never want to marry again. My last relationship burned me forever.” Or, “I don’t usually date women who look like you. Most of my exes were models.”
Anything negative is not good.
So ladies, be smart. Don’t be seduced by words. As much as you would love sweet sentiments to be true, be patient and evaluate - via actions as well as words - whether he is the right man for you.
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Men tend to get a bad rap when it comes to being willing to commit to relationships. I’m sure I am not telling you anything new here - many women like to brand men as players, and jerks who simply don’t want to commit.
In my work as a dating coach, I have seen some truth to that stereotype, for sure. But I also have seen that there are a fair amount of men who can and will commit when it’s the right woman. They will commit when they are in love, and especially when a woman gives them space and when she doesn’t try to change them.
I also see another stereotype at play, involving women. Women get pegged as the clingy pursuers who are desperate to get married. While this is another stereotype that can sometimes be true, I have also noticed that many women have commitment issues as well.
Some women are so afraid of intimacy - due to childhood or other issues - they fear settling down. Sometimes they aren’t even aware of what they are doing, and they are on that hamster wheel, frustrated as to why things may not ever be working out in their romantic lives.
They may sabotage relationships time and time again.
Could this be you perhaps?
One of the traits I see in women who are afraid to commit is extreme pickiness about members of the opposite sex.
No one is good enough for them, and they remain single. They are looking for perfection, and can’t seem to find anyone who is good enough for them. Upon closer inspection and discussion with them, I often find that there are underlying fears there. Perhaps an ex hurt them so badly they have never been able to recover. Or their childhood was so dysfunctional they simply don’t believe they can ever find happiness with a man.
Instead of examining their fears, and figuring out a way to move past them, they spend their lives turning away really good guys. Not perfect men, but men who would make them perfectly happy.
Another surprisingly common behavior I see is that women fall for guys who are all wrong for them. What I believe is really happening is they are often recreating a pattern from their childhood, and many times they aren’t even aware of what is going on. A big part of what is going on is fear of commitment. These ladies will never commit to these unavailable men. In fact, these men aren’t in it for the long haul either. So there’s no worry about committing on either side.
The problem is when you date unavailable men you waste a ton of time, and don’t find the love that you truly deserve. Everyone deserves true healthy love, even if you don’t think you deserve it, and even if you think you will never get it based on your past conditioning.
The first step to conquer this issue is to recognize that you have this problem. If you see yourself in any of these examples, ponder the situation a bit. The first step in changing any problem is simply recognizing that there is a problem. Then, you can work on it.
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Happy New Year everyone!
Let’s start 2018 off brimming with positivity and good vibes! In all aspects of your life, including in your online dating profile.
When your online dating profile is negative, the men and the experiences you attract will be negative, too.
Here are some tips to keep in mind while writing (or editing, i.e. improving on) your profile.
DON’T write about what you don't want.
Too many women don’t get this!
Just like it’s a negative way of approaching life, it’s a negative way of approaching dating.
For anyone who has done manifesting work, this will come as no surprise. Whenever you are putting something out there into the world, you put it out there in a positive way. In fact, the times I do manifesting work that mentions anything negative, I erase the comments (or toss the paper) so they aren't lingering around. I keep only the positive declarations in my written and online journals.
Plus, when you say in your profile something like: “I don’t want manipulative men,” it’s essentially a turn-off to an emotionally healthy guy. A high quality guy knows - subconsciously or consciously - to stay clear. That kind of phrase leads him to believe that a woman’s prior relationships were likely messy and unhealthy.
Another reason not to write what you don't want in an online dating profile is because it does no good anyhow. It won't necessarily prevent the guys you don't want from contacting you. Asking for someone who is not a player won't ensure that a player won't ask you out.
The best way to keep those guys from coming into your life is to have the right mindset and the right dating strategy.
You can write about your hobbies and interests and of course deal-breakers, like religion, locale, kids situation, and age. Those are important. Beyond that, you can talk on the date and let them learn more about you then.
Also, you must watch a guy’s actions throughout the dating process. You don’t jump into anything too fast. You don’t accept exclusivity too soon. You don’t have sex too soon. You take it slow because that’s the best way to see what a guy is made of.
The thing to put the most effort in when putting together an online dating profile is your profile photos, because as we all know, photos are the main thing guys look at.
Beyond that, keep your profile short sweet and upbeat!
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Wishing you all the best in 2018--may it be a year filled with positivity, success, joy, adventure and love!
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty - Winston Churchill
I talk to many ladies who are feeling despair over their dating and relationship life. Either they are frustrated that their boyfriend is not treating them right, or they are single and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, or they are feeling a loss of hope over a whole host of other factors.
With the holiday season in full swing, emotions can be magnified. It’s a beautiful time of the year - but if you aren’t in a good place it can be easy to sink into hopelessness.
I want to share something inspirational I just came across, something a friend texted me once, and it was so beautiful and helpful, I cut and pasted it and put it aside in a special folder of inspiring words.
I had been trying to get my business off the ground, but suffered a few setbacks in my business early on. Nothing out of the ordinary, but difficult nonetheless for someone who had no business, marketing or sales background. I was passionate about coaching, and was going to make it work, but that didn’t mean there weren’t trying times in the beginning.
Here’s are the words from a friend that made all the difference:
Be especially grateful for the really difficult moments. The really dark ones, when you start to question everything, that challenge you the most. It will really force you to become comfortable with being uncomfortable and learn to trust.
Always stay open and never say never. As you change and evolve as a person, your whole worldview can shift and change in an instant.
Just like these words touched me, I’m sure they will touch those of you who might be suffering a setback or difficulty of any kind - be it dating-related or in any part of your life.
How you react to your failures and setbacks is what will make or break you.
It might be hard to see when you are in the situation, but this is true. So embrace the failures. Stay as positive as you can throughout them. Just know - have faith - that you will get through it. Because you know what? You will.
This kind of thing is so hard to see in the moment, but if you can stick it out and have faith even in the darkest times, you will prevail. Giving up, and not learning from your setbacks and failures will keep you stuck.
When I look back at my business setbacks, and see them now through a different lens, I see how they propelled me much further ahead in my business, although I never would have thought so at the time.
The same can be said about any failure you may be dealing with: A relationship that had promise but simply failed. Or a broken off engagement. Or any romantic setback you regard as a failure.
Don’t let it get you down. Don’t let it make you cynical about love. Don’t let it cause you to give up totally on men. If you keep getting out there, using that mistake as a teaching lesson, you will be much better off than you were before.
Say, for example, your ex broke off your engagement, and you are shattered beyond belief. You are ready to crawl into a hole, declare all men jerks and live with your cats forever. Maybe that is how you feel initially, but you need to keep moving and also see your role in any equation. When you play the victim and when you don’t look on the bright side, you stay stuck.
It really comes down to a choice.
View that failure or setback in a way that will help you grow. Or view it in a woe is me way, which will keep you stuck.
It’s my experience that when something isn’t working, it’s best to let it go. It’s the universe saying: “This isn’t working. Let it go. Let’s make room for something else.”
Depending on the situation, it could be that the person was all wrong for you. Maybe they were simply a buyer beware who was going to hurt you even more in the future. Or it could be that you were all wrong, that you need to change - perhaps you are a negative person and were repelling the man you were involved with by constant nagging.
It’s hard to see any rejection or loss in the moment as a positive, but there is often a silver lining, and these rejections are often gifts if you are willing to look at them in that light.
It doesn’t mean you bury any problems, or ignore problems. It’s important to keep your eyes open and see what your role is in any situation. But try to see the silver lining, because there usually is a silver lining.
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