Do you want to know what "the oldest trick in the book" is? Check out this link in Hartford Courant magazine's December issue, where I explain a dating scenario that women need to watch out for.
I've written about this issue in prior blogs, and I'm including the issue in my upcoming book. So stay tuned for even more on this topic. Are you getting unmatched on Tinder?
I hear a lot of women complaining when this happens. Don't fret. It could be for a whole host of reasons that have nothing to do with you. The person could have gotten kicked off the site. Or left voluntarily. (He might have been married and got caught red-handed). It might have been a fake profile that was unmatching you. You don't know what you're dealing with online, so don't let any of this stuff stress you out. Focus on what you can control, and that is lining up dates with men who ask you out within four emails. Get on other sites besides Tinder. Sites that clients have had great luck on, besides Tinder, include Match, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Plenty of Fish. (Depending on where you live, certain sites are better than others, so try them all and see how it plays out). Remember, it only takes one guy! He's out there, you just have to try it all. xoxo, Karenna If you understand men and courtship, you can find your Mr. Right and have the relationship of your dreams.
My group coaching client did just that, getting married in October after working closely together for more than one year. Here are some of her happy comments, and words of encouragement: "Thank you Karenna and all the ladies here for all your help and support! Keep going and never lose hope, you’re doing the right thing," she said. " I can’t wait for the professional pictures from our wedding. We had so much fun and we were so happy. Thank you for all the good advice that you gave me that brought us here. The Rules is a lot of work but a great way of living." "He is a great guy, even my mother asks me where did I find him." xoxo, Karenna P.S. If you'd like to know more about how group coaching can work for you, email karennaalexander@gmail.com Online dating, singles-oriented events, and meeting through work are just some of the ways my single clients meet available men. I have another option for you to consider. Many women don't know about this, so I want to share it with you: Try getting into a free matchmaking database near a city or town where you live. MarieClaire Magazine interviewed me recently about dating, and I gave them this tip. If you want to read the article online, click here to read it. My tip is Tip #7. NOTE: The article discusses how to "break up with the dating apps," which is something I don't advocate. As a dating coach, I believe women should try everything. You never know where Mr. Right will come from. Nor do you know when. But if you're in the swim of things, trying everything I've mentioned above, stay positive, and if you have the right dating strategy, it will happen. Now when it comes to matchmaking, different matchmaking companies work differently. Some will charge women to be in their databases while others charge women to be clients. However, there are many matchmakers throughout the U.S. and the world who keep women in their databases for free. When I was a matchmaker, I did the same. If I had a male client who was looking for a certain type, I would look immediately in my database to see if I had a match. Like I said, try everything, and have faith Mr. Right is out there looking for you, too. If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF My personalized plan of action to finding THE ONE in one year gives you the tools to find your Mr. Right.
What you get in this special personalized plan are 4 key tips to finding your Mr. Right. I'll assess your situation and tell you exactly what you need to do in the next year to find your match! I've been doing this for 15 years and have gotten many ladies married, engaged and into great relationships with amazing guys. I've found time and time again, there are 4 key areas that need to be present. I hone in on those areas and send you a personalized blueprint to follow. The four areas, in a nutshell, are: 1. Having the right strategy. It's a jungle out there, and I can save you a ton of time with the right strategy to weed out time wasters and make the right man step up to the plate. 2. Taking the right actions. There are certain things you need to be doing if you want to meet Mr. Right. You can't hang out with girlfriends at home, or spend all your time at work. You need to meet the universe half way. 3. You need to have the right attitude. A quality man senses when you're unhappy and miserable. Not everyone is happy all the time, but with some tweaks, your attitude can do a 360. 4. Your appearance. Looks are important when dating. It's not that you need to be a model, but you have to be a guy's type. I tell you the things men care about. To get started, PayPal the Blueprint fee of $299 to coachkarenna@karennaalexander.com Or send an email with any questions. I can't wait for you to find your special someone! xoxo, Karenna Celebrities and other VIP guys are like any other men. If they get something too easily, they don't appreciate it. They won't necessarily turn down someone who makes it easy to have a one-night stand. But doing so will work to a woman's disadvantage.
Contrast the story below in "Page Six" about actor Orlando Bloom's one-night stand with a waitress, with the story of how Amal and George met. Amal reportedly refused George's invitation to visit him in his hotel room. She's a total class act, wasn't out to bag a celebrity or brag about it to her friends. She had high standards, and did the seemingly impossible—ended up getting one of the world's most eligible bachelors to propose. Here's a link to the waitress who had a hotel tryst that didn't go anywhere. Stay classy and you'll go farther with men in the long run. If you'd like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF If you would like to purchase my booklet called Getting Clarity on Mr. Forever, email me at coachkarenna@karennaalexander.com and I'll send it to you. For the price of only $29, the booklet helps you get crystal clear on your Mr. Forever, so clear and confident in what you want that you have no choice but to MAN-ifest it. DISCLAIMER: While there are men like this out there, not all men want this type of relationship! When reading Is There Still Sex in the City by Candace Bushnell I was struck by how real the characters seemed, especially the guy I call Mr. SUPER SHALLOW, because he’s 75 (says he’s 68), dates decades younger, and doesn’t care if the women he sleeps with are even attracted to him. He just wants sex. I was struck by this character because I know this type of man exists, and have seen him in my career as a dating coach and matchmaker. For some men, relationships are just transactional. Thankfully all men aren’t like this. I used this example in Bushnell’s 📖 book during a talk I gave this weekend called “A Day in the Life of Your Next Protagonist,” speaking before the Romance Writers of America, who wanted to know what a day in the life of a love 💝 expert looks 👀 like. For more, listen to a snippet of my talk in the accompanying video. Don't fall for one of the oldest tricks in the book. Some women are flattered by this type of request from a man. Don't be. When you understand men, you realize when a man asks you over to his house for dinner, it's nothing special. In fact, it can be a bad sign. His aim is to get you to serve yourself up to him on a silver platter so he can sleep with you easily. It's a lazy way to court a woman. Not all men who ask women to dinner at their house are bad guys. They may be spoiled. However, you should turn such a request down. If he's the right guy, he'll respect that you aren't ready to have home dates. If he's not a good guy, you'll weed him out fairly quickly. (There's a time and place for home dates, but this is for much later on). If a guy drops off because you won't have dinner at his house, be thankful you're weeding out Mr. Wrong. Some guys can't do the courtship dance. It is too much for them. They're either buyer bewares or not quite as interested as you want them to be. Has a guy ever asked to cook you dinner at his house (or your house)? How did it turn out? Feel free to post below and share your experiences. If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF If you've been trying to meet men online, there's a good chance you've run into this question from a man:
"Can you send over more photos?" This is usually a red flag. When you have a full body shot and a headshot on an online dating site, there's no reason why a man should be asking for more photos. Ignore this type of request. If a man needs to see more photos to date you, something's off. He isn't convinced you're his type. Or he's collecting photos of women. You don't want to be part of either. Move on to the next guy. There's always another man around the corner. xoxo, Karenna If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF Sometimes an easygoing guy is a great guy, and other times he's indifferent and apathetic about you. The longer you date, the easier it is to figure out which is which. This is why I advocate multi-dating. Because the man who seems so great in the beginning can turn into a complete cad a few months in. One woman I know dated a man whose online dating profile said something like: "easygoing, laid back and down-to-earth, treats everyone well." He seemed that way early on, and on the surface. Ultimately, he turned out to be indifferent, entitled, heartless, and quite cold. He planned a fishing trip for her birthday (because he liked to fish), and when that fell through because his friends weren't available for the trip, he skipped her birthday. He basically never said one word when her cat died. He essentially ghosted without saying anything after they'd been together many months. Morale of the story is words are just words until they're backed up by the actions of a good man who is moving a relationship forward in the right way. Have you ever dated an easygoing guy who turned out to be indifferent? Feel free to share your story below. xoxo, Karenna “The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” ― Elie Wiesel If you would like to apply to work together to learn to weed out time wasters, date like a confident "it girl," and learn to understand men, apply here to work with me: https://karenna1.typeform.com/to/YaF1PF |
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